Despite what others may think, it is perfectly normal for you and your children to want some time apart from one another. Just like any other relationship, kids get sick of their parents, and parents get sick of always being around their children. I believe this is why we take advantage of the opportunities when our children are sent to be with family.
A couple of weeks ago, my father picked up my daughter and nephew for a couple days. For my sister, it’s partially a relief (she still has two more boys with her), but for my husband and I, we couldn’t have been more elated to get some alone time, and also give our daughter some time to see my father, so I’m sure she was just as excited to get away from us as well, lol.
Whenever I tell someone that I take every opportunity to let my daughter stay with a family member or go spend a week with someone, they always ask me how I am able to do it so easily. I’m not going to sit here and say that I just pawn her off to every family member at the drop of a hat; but I am also not going to say that I am a complete mess while she is gone. I believe it’s a combination of things.
First, knowing and trusting whoever she is with, helps ease the mind a bit. I don’t have to put my parents or grandparents on a hawk eye’s watch with my child, because I trust them and know that they would take care of her just as well (if not better possibly, lol) whenever she is with them. I mean, they took care of me and my husband, and we turned out ok, right?
Secondly, I know my daughter gets sick and tired of looking at her parents all the time and wants to visit with other family; and that is perfectly normal and ok. People do not understand that children are humans as well. They do not always want to be up under their parents all the time, just like their parents don’t want to be up under them, LOL. That’s why it is beneficial to always have a support system around that your kids know and love as well, to give them a mini vacation every now and then also. My daughter would always go on trips, have sleepovers and hang out with family, because I knew that would give her time to spend time with loved ones and friends and if she ever got the opportunity to do so, I would give it to her.
Third, ALL PARENTS NEED A BREAK SOMETIMES! I love my daughter to the ends of this Earth, but it doesn’t mean I don’t need a break as well. And there is nothing wrong with you needing a break from parenting. Being a parent is one of my greatest joys, and I wouldn’t trade it for anything in this world; however, that doesn’t mean that if someone didn’t give me the opportunity to have a kid-free vacation, I wouldn’t take it! There’s only so much one can take when you’re constantly in “mommy” or “daddy” mode for a good portion of your day. Adults need to step outside of that bubble and get some adult human interaction as well.
We can be the best parents God set us out to be, but that does not mean we do not still deserve the opportunities to enjoy life. There are times when we enjoy the great wonders of life with our children, and also times that are meant to enjoy moments of life with other adults. Just like I need time to enjoy being an adult, my daughter needs time to enjoy seeing her family, and being a kid. I give her every opportunity to interact with other kids and other family, and it gives us just enough time to miss each other, so once we are back together again, we can enjoy each other’s presence again!