Be Magical AF.

I have to take this time to shoutout the #SelfishBabe app because it is truly inspirational. I’ve never dealt with an affirmation app that was so blunt and real and truthfully, this is needed in my life at this current time.

I need small reminders that I have greatness in my soul and I refuse to let anyone dim the light that shines through me. I’m committed to growing and glowing and like the picture says, the world is dealing with a magical MF!!!

If you need daily doses of realness and inspiration to be the lit ass individual you are, download the #SelfishBabe app and get your entire life!!!

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A Rant; To the Working Millenial That is Fed Up

It’s difficult to wake up every morning, and prepare to report to a job that is not satisfying in the least.  I’m sure we have all been in a position where the stress and constant disappointment continues to mount on you, until eventually, you snap.  You have towed the company line for a long time, done what’s needed to be done, over-exerted yourself beyond a point of relief, and sacrificed the all-knowing “work-life” balance, for more work and less life. What do you do when you find that you are becoming a bit claustrophobic; you’re stuck in a box of professional conformity, and how the hell do you break loose from those conditions??

When you think long and hard about it, you want to find a new passion.  You want to develop a new career path, but you’re so burnt out from your current job, anything you think about turns to mush.  So, how do you ignite new passions, or even re-ignite passions you thought were long gone?

Before you know it, you’ve lost your steam.  You’ve lost the idea of even enjoying any job you seek out.  How do you bring yourself out of a professional hole?

I write this, in hopes of touching someone who is in the same boat as I am.  Someone who’s suffering from the same issues professionally as I experience.  It’s time to stop settling for the convenience of professions, when they do not appreciate or support you in the long run.  It’s time to find what you’re passionate about, take the leap and do it.  No more thinking or wishing you could do something better with your life when you have the potential and the ability to do so.  Do not sell yourself short and do not play small.  Find what you’re passionate about, and do what it takes to make your dreams and goals a reality.  Find the professional freedom you seek.

Stop existing in a lifestyle that brings you nothing, and live with a life that gives you everything.

Being Available for You

How many times do we clear our calendars, shuffle and scramble to make room for others, but when it comes to our own personal availability, we do not show the same effort?

With jobs, children, significant others/spouses, family, etc., it is very hard to say that you want to carve out time for yourself, when you have so many competing priorities in your life.  So how do you find the time?

You make the time and you commit to yourself.  It’s easy for us to make commitments to other people, even ones that may even be unrealistic to attain, but when it comes to putting forth that same attitude towards our own lives, we tend to draw back and say “no, I don’t need to.”

YES, YOU VERY MUCH NEED TO!  2018 is the year that we are all saying we are “living our best life”, and we all need to actually start doing that.  We need to start making ourselves priority number one.  If not, how can you even try to make time for anyone else to be a priority?  How will you have the energy, the determination or the dedication to put your best foot forward for someone else, when you cannot even show that same energy towards your own life.

I personally get it; I have a husband, a child, nephews, family, and a very demanding job.  I understand fully what it means to put forth all of this energy towards these other things and leave me on the back burner.  My one example of that was when I was working out.  Between all of the other things going on in my life, I neglected the one thing I loved doing, working out.  For six months, I made excuses as to why I was not taking out the time for myself to go to the gym like I should have been, and I suffered greatly for it.  It wasn’t until March when I realized that in order for me to be my best self, I need to make time for myself.  That is when I got my motivation back to go to the gym consistently, and I am seeing major results from it.

Now, I can still manage to give to those who need me most, but I start my day off in the gym, so I am committing to giving to myself first.

For the second half of 2018, we should all adapt a mentality that says that we need to make more time for ourselves.  We need to remember that priority number one is our health, well-being and mental stability; because without those things, how can you do anything or give 100% to anything else in your life, when you refuse to give 100% to yourself?

-Whit C.

Be Unapologetic AF! *A Public Service Announcement*

Why do we continuously feel the need to be sorry for how we choose to live our lives?

In case no one has told you, you don’t owe anyone in life anything. You don’t owe anyone an explanation on the choices you make in regards to your life. You only owe it to yourself to love yourself, live your fullest life; and you deserve to do it unapologetically.

No one should make choices for you, or judge you for the choices you make. There is no handbook on life, which means that it’s up to any and everyone’s interpretation.

What and how you interpret your life to be, is no one’s decision but your own. Make your mistakes, learn the lessons that are most applicable to your life, and freely choose to be whoever it is you want to be. Do not allow society to restrict you to what they believe is how life should go for you. We are not cookie-cutter human beings. We have different upbringings, cultural differences, family and lifestyle dynamics; how dare society peg us and make us fit into what they believe is “normal.”

Be unapologetic. Unapologetic As Fuck. Do not live your life at the expense of anyone. Pick the road less traveled because it’s what you want. Be your own person and love the shit out of yourself and those around you.

Don’t ask for the approval of anyone, because your life is your own and you deserve to live it freely.

 

Dealing with Downs

Most times, I enjoy writing things that people could relate to.  I’m not like other bloggers; I don’t have a “niche” per se, I don’t have a specific thing that I want to talk about all the time on my blog.  But, if you could ball my creative side up and put it into a category, I would call it “Life.”  That’s what I enjoy writing about; sometimes my innermost thoughts, sometimes the things that you are thinking but just won’t say, but most importantly I like to write about the things that I feel the person to my left or right of me is going through also, but are too afraid to bring it to light.  I believe that everyone sometimes has similar problems or trials in life, and we all just need someone to sit down and talk to them about it.

So, with that being said, here is mine.  As I’m sure the greater 475+ of you have noticed, I haven’t written much in a period of about 2-3 months.  I haven’t been on my blog, I haven’t promoted anything, and honestly I haven’t even finished the projects that I intent to publish very soon.  Mentally, I haven’t been in the headspace to create anything that I feel people would care about, but I felt like if nothing more, someone could relate to this very post.  Emotionally, I’ve been on a roller coaster.  It’s something that I don’t want to put so much effort into disclosing, but just know that there are times when you can be at your lowest, and in a split second be on a high; eventually, you ride that high all the way back down to a low point, and that could last for a long while.  I feel just like that, like I’ve been riding an emotional wave between high and low for a while now.  Some days I’ll sit down and crank out 10,000 words for my book or have really good content to write for my blog, and another day I may not have the motivation to do anything and that could last for days.

Sometimes, I am at a complete loss on how to move past those down moments.  It’s really not a fun place to be in. I know there may be several people in the world, creatives especially, that may go through these moments of lows when it comes to doing what you’re passionate about. First and foremost, I have to say keep pushing. No low moment lasts forever, and with proper self-care and self-love, you can pull yourself out. Some of the things I enjoy doing are listening to music, meditating, working out or just basically having alone time and thinking about positive things. I re-read affirmations I have written and journal constantly to try and vent my feelings, but also bring myself out of said funk. I urge anyone going through something similar to find what hobbies and activities put you in your happy place, and build off of those.

For me, I am currently in “pull yourself out of it” mode, and with that will come more writing, more content and overall more happiness.

Stay with me, I’ll be just fine. 🖤