When was the last time you did something unapologetically for yourself? I’m not talking about doing something for yourself by happenstance, or because it was an occasion; but just on a random Tuesday, you did something simply for yourself because you’re entitled to do just that? Or maybe, you just wanted to sit around and do absolutely nothing and not feel guilty about it; but you knew that somewhere deep down in the corners of your mind, there was a little voice telling you “you shouldn’t be doing that because you have ‘x,y,z’ you need to be doing.”
Why do we as adults make it our intention to make our lives feel so hard? Why don’t we find more time to do things for ourselves or cut ourselves some slack?
Why do we not take the time to enjoy life’s simplest things? I ask these questions, and in my opinion, I believe there are three one-word answers to this question:
I feel like these three things hinder us from enjoying simple pleasures of life. Time is simply what we tell ourselves what we don’t have enough of. We plan out everything for everyone else and leave little to no time for ourselves. We tell ourselves we have a responsibility to our spouses and children, family and friends; but who is responsible for us? We prioritize others’ needs, wants and emotions over our own constantly, and wonder if anyone does the same for us.
Im not saying that this is done all the time, but I know I am personally guilty of several occasions where I have gone leaps and bounds for my family and friends, and told myself that I don’t matter, or that they are more important when in actuality, my wants and needs are just as important; if not more!
Being intentional about living an unapologetically free life is very difficult, because you have to tell yourself simply that you don’t owe anyone anything, nor do you have to feel sorry for doing for yourself. Many people call it being selfish, myself included; however, even I have had to get out of the habit of considering it a selfish act. It is actually more of a necessary act.
You absolutely have to make time for yourself in life or else how else would you be able to be your best self for the ones you love? How will you learn your likes and dislikes? How else will you learn to love yourself first? All of these questions are answered simply by being unapologetic about allowing yourself to be your number one priority and being intentional about not being sorry about doing for you. I’ve made a few posts about a couple of tips that I feel are ways that you can start living an unapologetic life:
Here are a few other things you can do to start being intentional about treating yourself with just as much importance as you do your loved ones:
- Carve out time for yourself each day, even if its five minutes.
- Keep positive and motivating people around you.
- Meditate, pray, or repeat encouraging words to get you through rough times.
- Adopt a mantra for your life!