Be Unapologetic AF! *A Public Service Announcement*

Why do we continuously feel the need to be sorry for how we choose to live our lives?

In case no one has told you, you don’t owe anyone in life anything. You don’t owe anyone an explanation on the choices you make in regards to your life. You only owe it to yourself to love yourself, live your fullest life; and you deserve to do it unapologetically.

No one should make choices for you, or judge you for the choices you make. There is no handbook on life, which means that it’s up to any and everyone’s interpretation.

What and how you interpret your life to be, is no one’s decision but your own. Make your mistakes, learn the lessons that are most applicable to your life, and freely choose to be whoever it is you want to be. Do not allow society to restrict you to what they believe is how life should go for you. We are not cookie-cutter human beings. We have different upbringings, cultural differences, family and lifestyle dynamics; how dare society peg us and make us fit into what they believe is “normal.”

Be unapologetic. Unapologetic As Fuck. Do not live your life at the expense of anyone. Pick the road less traveled because it’s what you want. Be your own person and love the shit out of yourself and those around you.

Don’t ask for the approval of anyone, because your life is your own and you deserve to live it freely.

 

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Living in Unapologetic Intention

When was the last time you did something unapologetically for yourself? I’m not talking about doing something for yourself by happenstance, or because it was an occasion; but just on a random Tuesday, you did something simply for yourself because you’re entitled to do just that?  Or maybe, you just wanted to sit around and do absolutely nothing and not feel guilty about it; but you knew that somewhere deep down in the corners of your mind, there was a little voice telling you “you shouldn’t be doing that because you have ‘x,y,z’ you need to be doing.”

Why do we as adults make it our intention to make our lives feel so hard?  Why don’t we find more time to do things for ourselves or cut ourselves some slack?

Why do we not take the time to enjoy life’s simplest things?  I ask these questions, and in my opinion, I believe there are three one-word answers to this question:

  • Time
  • Responsibility
  • Priority

I feel like these three things hinder us from enjoying simple pleasures of life.  Time is simply what we tell ourselves what we don’t have enough of.  We plan out everything for everyone else and leave little to no time for ourselves.  We tell ourselves we have a responsibility to our spouses and children, family and friends; but who is responsible for us?  We prioritize others’ needs, wants and emotions over our own constantly, and wonder if anyone does the same for us.

Im not saying that this is done all the time, but I know I am personally guilty of several occasions where I have gone leaps and bounds for my family and friends, and told myself that I don’t matter, or that they are more important when in actuality, my wants and needs are just as important; if not more!

Being intentional about living an unapologetically free life is very difficult, because you have to tell yourself simply that you don’t owe anyone anything, nor do you have to feel sorry for doing for yourself.  Many people call it being selfish, myself included; however, even I have had to get out of the habit of considering it a selfish act.  It is actually more of a necessary act.

You absolutely have to make time for yourself in life or else how else would you be able to be your best self for the ones you love?  How will you learn your likes and dislikes? How else will you learn to love yourself first?  All of these questions are answered simply by being unapologetic about allowing yourself to be your number one priority and being intentional about not being sorry about doing for you.  I’ve made a few posts about a couple of tips that I feel are ways that you can start living an unapologetic life:

Here are a few other things you can do to  start being intentional about treating yourself with just as much importance as you do your loved ones:

  • Carve out time for yourself each day, even if its five minutes.
  • Keep positive and motivating people around you.
  • Meditate, pray, or repeat encouraging words to get you through rough times.
  • Adopt a mantra for your life!