Stop Playing Small

In light of new resolutions, goals and plans for the new year, when making that outlined list of what we will throw our efforts into, we often play small. Playing small means to play it safe; to settle for what is secured and safe for our egos to withstand. Playing it big means going out for the big fish, the grand opportunity; the one that oftentimes scares us the most.

So instead of going for those big opportunities, we go for the easily attainable ones, the ones that don’t offer much disappointment, the ones that make you feel like you’re settling; because most times you are.

Do you think this is acceptable; going for the option to settle instead of going for what you truly want in life? Well, I’m here to tell you it’s not. It doesn’t feel good to see others getting what they want and wondering what you’re doing wrong. Most times, the thing you’re doing wrong is that you’re not going after what you truly want out of life. One thing I’ve learned is that the only thing stopping you from what someone else has is effort and faith that you can achieve all you set out for yourself, no matter how big the goal.

So, for 2019, don’t play yourself, and don’t settle for the small things, when you can go for your big dreams. The only thing standing in your way is you.

🖤

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A Rant; To the Working Millenial That is Fed Up

It’s difficult to wake up every morning, and prepare to report to a job that is not satisfying in the least.  I’m sure we have all been in a position where the stress and constant disappointment continues to mount on you, until eventually, you snap.  You have towed the company line for a long time, done what’s needed to be done, over-exerted yourself beyond a point of relief, and sacrificed the all-knowing “work-life” balance, for more work and less life. What do you do when you find that you are becoming a bit claustrophobic; you’re stuck in a box of professional conformity, and how the hell do you break loose from those conditions??

When you think long and hard about it, you want to find a new passion.  You want to develop a new career path, but you’re so burnt out from your current job, anything you think about turns to mush.  So, how do you ignite new passions, or even re-ignite passions you thought were long gone?

Before you know it, you’ve lost your steam.  You’ve lost the idea of even enjoying any job you seek out.  How do you bring yourself out of a professional hole?

I write this, in hopes of touching someone who is in the same boat as I am.  Someone who’s suffering from the same issues professionally as I experience.  It’s time to stop settling for the convenience of professions, when they do not appreciate or support you in the long run.  It’s time to find what you’re passionate about, take the leap and do it.  No more thinking or wishing you could do something better with your life when you have the potential and the ability to do so.  Do not sell yourself short and do not play small.  Find what you’re passionate about, and do what it takes to make your dreams and goals a reality.  Find the professional freedom you seek.

Stop existing in a lifestyle that brings you nothing, and live with a life that gives you everything.

How to Forgive Myself

A few days ago, I listened to a guided meditation that provided a lot of perspective on what I have been going through these past couple of weeks.

It was in reference to forgiving yourself, and how often we forget that the most important person that needs forgiveness, is you.

How many of us on a given day, go through the day making personal mistakes; and instead of giving ourselves a little compassion and room to forgive, we unload on ourselves with doubt and major criticism? Why is this ok, when with other we continue to encourage the art of forgiveness?

Personally, I find it difficult to not hold myself to a higher standard in life, because I know better. When I make mistakes, I feel like I’m failing myself, because I should have never made that decision in the beginning. I’ve had to learn to tell myself that times will not always be perfect and will not always fall into place.

Meditating and reflecting on the concept of forgiving myself has been very eye-opening, as I realized there are several things that I find myself being extra critical about myself.

Today, I plan to take more time to forgive myself, and offer myself some benefit of the doubt in regards to situations that arise in my life. I plan to take advantage of the opportunities to be compassionate for my own actions, just as I am able to show compassion to others in their situations. I feel like maybe, this might make things better during the tough times. 🖤

Stressed.

With every headline, I get more and more stressed.

I wonder if my daughter will be safe in school.

I wonder if my husband will be safe anywhere.

I wonder if I will be safe anywhere.

Everything going on around us, just breeds more and more disdain and leads to a level of skepticism that anything will ever change.

This is only 2018, there’s so much more life to live.

All we can do, is pray through it.

The Lists of Self-Discovery

I recently purchased a book title “List Your Self:

The goal and purpose of the book is to look at the lists outlined in the book, take your time and think about it, then write whatever comes to mind. The lists aren’t meant to be super short or pages and pages long; they are whatever comes to your mind to satisfy that list.

In the end, the hope is that you’ve learned more about yourself than when you started on this list-writing journey.

At first, I was a little nervous, because I bought the book blindly so I wouldn’t spoil what I felt would be a journey full of surprises. I didn’t know what to expect, what questions they would ask, or if i would even like it.

The more I thought about the concept and the book, I actually got a little more excited about it. I’m always looking at new and different ways to discover more about myself; and who would’ve thought it would be as simple and making a list?

So here’s to a journey through a new book, and hopefully some thought provoking revelations!