Why is it so hard for people to have tough conversations?
Sure; they’re annoying, draining and sometimes exhausting. But, how do two adults go through life without having tough conversations? How can you live life and never sit down and someone be the bigger person and not address the proverbial “elephant in the room”?
I’m not the biggest fan of a tough conversation by any means, and I’m not good at having them sometimes; however, I know that certain times in life, they need to happen. They may not always end up the best way, but they need to happen. There are so many reasons why people need to have hard conversations with others, and I think sometimes that gets lost in the assumption of how “difficult” they feel.
- They provide clarity.
- They provide a sense of closure.
- They held build inderstanding.
- They sometimes provide an answer to something that you thought was totally wrong.
- They can begin building a bridge towards forgiveness and compassion
These are just a few reasons why I see the benefits in these conversations, and I think if you learn to have these conversations the right way, everyone wins! I’m currently reading the book, Crucial Conversations, and it’s definitely teaching me a lot. When I’m finished, I’m hoping to be able to see the idea of having crucial conversations in a more positive light and be able to mirror the concept in my professional and personal life.
All in all, I hope we all one day can adapt to the idea that being a grown up and having grown up talks is not always bad, sometimes it’s just the mature way of understanding that they are needed. Not everything in life is always going to be fine, and that is ok.
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Totally agree with this, not everything is perfect all the time and having conversations helps you to be okay with that. Great post!
Anika | chaptersofmay.com
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When it comes to having difficulty conversations with my partner, I don’t like have them with them because they become too emotional, whereas I just want to get to a solution.
When it comes to people like my mum, she has not interest unless it’s about God, she won’t listen, she doesn’t care, and it never changes a damn thing. I’d rather bang my head against a wall
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That is tough. Sometimes you’ve got to find a way to meet somewhere in the middle and have a healthy positive dialogue where everyone can get their feelings out, not take it too emotionally but still also get what you need from the conversation. It’s something I’m learning currently with myself.
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I absolutely agree. Difficult conversations and active listening are two mature skills. Thanks for sharing.
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Yes! And I believe they get better and better the more we mature. I’m learning so much about how to be a better communicator; and oddly enough, it started with me talking about it at work, and I’m finding it more beneficial in my personal life lol
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Nice post. I think people just avoid difficult conversations because they are scared about it but most times it is needed, especially for clarity.
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I agree and it’s something even I’m learning to be better at. Clarity is one of the most important things you gain out of these types of conversations.
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Yes, clarity is really important.
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