Who Am I?
Who Are You?
The million-dollar question that is expected to have the most profound answer; or is it?
I’ve been living life all wrong. I’ve been living my life thinking that I had to have some prophetic and deep, thought-provoking answer to this question when asked. Like, when someone asks you to answer the question “who are you?” you’re supposed to have some monologue answer on who you are.
News flash: you’re evolving daily so who you are is subjective and only dependent upon the timeframe in which you are asking!
I used to drive myself insane trying to answer this question. I would make lists, journal, pray, and constantly wonder why I couldn’t really find the answer to this question. It bothered me that something I thought was so simple could not be articulated.
It wasn’t until recently that I realized that the question “who am I?” is a question that is possibly for a higher level of understanding; if that! Posing a question like that to anyone is bound to bring about an overwhelming level of confusion; and if you dwell on finding the answer too long, you may feel more lost than ever. I’ve now learned, and accepted, that there is no right or proper answer to that question; and that’s ok. I’ve settled on these few points to remind myself of this newfound revelation:
First, we often confuse who we are with the roles we possess and function in daily. Just because I have or possess a role in life, does not mean that that role defines who I am as an individual. What defines me as an individual is engrained within me, and roles are assigned based on who I am; not the other way around.
Second, you don’t owe anyone an explanation on who you are; because we grow everyday. Every day something different happens to us; we change, and with that sometimes comes a new definition on who you really are. There’s no point in holding on to a single word or phrase to answer that question, when it could very well change the next day.
Third, be ok with the unknown!! I’ve lived my life with the notion of trying to figure out who I was and be able to present that to people. The fact is, I have no idea and IM OK WITH THAT FOR NOW. I’m currently in a stage in my life where I am redefining and re-learning my purpose and myself. And there are a lot of things about me that I don’t have an answer to; and I may never have those answers. What I won’t do anymore is beat myself up for not having those answers. What I will do is be ok with not knowing right now; live my life and see what I discover along the way.