Who’s to Blame in the Cheating Game?


Let’s talk about this real quick:

I would have to agree with this statement. The only way a woman is going to know how far she can go, is if that man allows her to take it that far.  Sometimes, women get upset with other women when they find out their man has been cheating, and if you sit down and rationalize the situation, is it really ALL on them? I’d have to say no.  You have to check how your man behaves when he’s not around you. If he is conducting himself, telling people or even giving off the vibe to indicate that he is available to talk to other women, then how is an unsuspecting woman supposed to know the difference?  She would approach him as if he was a single woman, and if he responds that way, then that says a lot about the man you are with.

I’ve been cheated on before, and the only reason I had been upset with the other female, is because we were friends (or so I thought) at the time and she knew I was in a relationship with this person.  In a separate situation, I was mad only at my ex because he was conducting himself in a way that one would assume he was single.  It was not only a betrayal to me, but it also made me look stupid and I felt the ultimate level of disrespect.  I couldn’t really justify being upset at the female because, did she know about me? No.  Had we known each other before? No.  As much as I wanted to be mad at her, what could I base my anger off of, if he was the one misleading her into believing he was single?

So, to answer the question in the image, I go with TRUE!

Agree or disagree?


6 thoughts on “Who’s to Blame in the Cheating Game?

  1. Dan – Milwaukee, WI – Career Paramedic, single daddy, lover of humor, and a desire to articulate some thoughts into the electronic word.
    Dan says:

    If she does not know you exist, then I agree the blame falls completely upon his shoulders. And you’re better off as the cheating mentality seldom ever changes.

  2. I don’t like the picture because it insinuates men and women can’t talk without having sex. If I had sex with every woman I speak to, my wife wouldn’t have to kill me, I’d die of exhaustion. A lot of women text or call me and yes, it’s because I let them know they can. They are comfortable reaching out because we’re friends.

    If it had been worded differently, if it actually said “if your man cheats, don’t blame the other woman” I’d be closer to agreeing. If your partner cheats, it’s on them. But there are people out there who do not care how attached you are, men and women who see a ring as a challenge to overcome rather than a stop sign. While cheating is on your partner, sometimes it’s not because they invited it.

    1. I think when they say “talking” it’s to insinuate more than just casual friendly conversation; which is how most people identify that they are a little more than friends these days (I’ve had friends use the term in that sense, lol). In that case, I’m not saying that every woman cannot be friendly with my husband; he has coworkers who are women and they are friends so I don’t think there is any ill intent there.

      I also agree that sometimes the cheating is not invited, but at that point if your partner sees that there are some unwelcome intentions there, they shouldn’t entertain it. I think these days, you know when someone’s trying to come onto you, so you should know that it is unacceptable when you’re in a relationship. In these cases, the other man/woman should be the blame as well in some aspect because if you can blatantly see someone is in a relationship, then why pursue them in the first place?

      1. Absolutely, if someone is coming on too strong, it’s up to your partner to say, “no, not gonna happen.” All I was saying is that someone coming on strong to your guy or gal doesn’t necessarily mean they invited or encouraged it.

        It always amazes me when someone is cheated on how much blame is put on the person who isn’t in the relationship. The outside party doesn’t owe your relationship anything, not even respect. That’s between the people in the relationship. The outsider didn’t make any commitments, the people in the relationship did. I get being angry at what happened and even at the outsider, I just don’t get why people think the outsider should have respected something they had no part in.

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