How to Forgive Myself

A few days ago, I listened to a guided meditation that provided a lot of perspective on what I have been going through these past couple of weeks.

It was in reference to forgiving yourself, and how often we forget that the most important person that needs forgiveness, is you.

How many of us on a given day, go through the day making personal mistakes; and instead of giving ourselves a little compassion and room to forgive, we unload on ourselves with doubt and major criticism? Why is this ok, when with other we continue to encourage the art of forgiveness?

Personally, I find it difficult to not hold myself to a higher standard in life, because I know better. When I make mistakes, I feel like I’m failing myself, because I should have never made that decision in the beginning. I’ve had to learn to tell myself that times will not always be perfect and will not always fall into place.

Meditating and reflecting on the concept of forgiving myself has been very eye-opening, as I realized there are several things that I find myself being extra critical about myself.

Today, I plan to take more time to forgive myself, and offer myself some benefit of the doubt in regards to situations that arise in my life. I plan to take advantage of the opportunities to be compassionate for my own actions, just as I am able to show compassion to others in their situations. I feel like maybe, this might make things better during the tough times. 🖤

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Stressed.

With every headline, I get more and more stressed.

I wonder if my daughter will be safe in school.

I wonder if my husband will be safe anywhere.

I wonder if I will be safe anywhere.

Everything going on around us, just breeds more and more disdain and leads to a level of skepticism that anything will ever change.

This is only 2018, there’s so much more life to live.

All we can do, is pray through it.

The Lists of Self-Discovery

I recently purchased a book title “List Your Self:

The goal and purpose of the book is to look at the lists outlined in the book, take your time and think about it, then write whatever comes to mind. The lists aren’t meant to be super short or pages and pages long; they are whatever comes to your mind to satisfy that list.

In the end, the hope is that you’ve learned more about yourself than when you started on this list-writing journey.

At first, I was a little nervous, because I bought the book blindly so I wouldn’t spoil what I felt would be a journey full of surprises. I didn’t know what to expect, what questions they would ask, or if i would even like it.

The more I thought about the concept and the book, I actually got a little more excited about it. I’m always looking at new and different ways to discover more about myself; and who would’ve thought it would be as simple and making a list?

So here’s to a journey through a new book, and hopefully some thought provoking revelations!

My Free Time is Not Free

Lately I’ve been doing a lot of self-evaluation; an effort in trying to become a better “me”, if you will. I’ve been through some scenarios that have provided the shocking conclusion that my “free time” is never actually “free”.

People spend an unnecessary amount of time trying to figure out what it is they want to do, and then get upset when they do not have the energy and time to do it because they’ve been catering to everything else that does not agree with the concept of free time.

I’m sure there are several occasions when you’ve told yourself you’re going to have a free day, and do things that you truly enjoy, but our productivity mindset is so wired in that we end up doing things that do not align with what our intentions were. Then at the end of it all, you wonder “did I actually even give myself a break?”

I’ve done this far too often; I even did it last night. I intended to do one thing for 5 minutes, and then spend the rest of the time reading. I ended up spending 45 minutes doing work related things, because it would have helped me be more productive the next day. What I really did, is cheated myself out of valuable minutes to myself, doing something I thoroughly enjoy (which is reading a good book).

I guess the million-dollar question for me is: why do we do this to ourselves? Why does society always live in a wave of self-sabotage? The world may never know. What I do know, is that we should begin to take more conscious opportunities to really seize the chance at embracing our free time and not making it about productivity. Life is tough, and you’re allowed to have a few lazy moments here and there. Whenever you have a moment to truly do what you want, or nothing at all; take that chance! You may never know when you’ll get a golden moment like that again.

Self-Care Sunday: Nourishing Your Creativity

Most of us are in the world of creative entrepreneurship. We all have our own jobs and professional endeavors; however, we also have separate creative projects, businesses or projects that we are building upon in hopes of one day that being our sole means of income or separate and second business business venture.

Most of us spend countless hours at our 9-5, just to turn around and burn our midnight oils with our “5-9” dreams as well. If you’re going through the same things i go through, sometimes we can get a little burnt out, or the fumes tend to run low on the creative scale, when you haven’t had the time to really sit down and take quality time to put your best effort towards your creative goals.

One of the ways that you can stay on top of your self care is nourishing your creativity. Whether it is taking up a new hobby or revitalizing a new one, getting back into your creative nature is a good way to spark your creativity, and put yourself back into positive spirits.

On a personal note, I find myself in a more positive spirit, when I am at my creative peak. When I can put in time writing and creating good content for my blog or my writing projects, I find myself in my best moods. When my creaitvity is blocked, I find that those are the times when I feel I am not in my best of moods and I am struggling with finding my happiness. It definitely shows in my work and my attitude.

Some of the ways I try to nourish my creative juices are by getting good and sound sleep, meditating, exercising, journaling and even creating some reflective down time to sit with my thoughts so that I can play around with different ideas that I’ve had in the past. I find that taking the time for these things help to allow my creativity to flourish and I can be at my best!

What are some of the ways you allow yourself to be your best crestively?

4 Ways to Protect your Positive Energy

We are living in hectic times in 2018. There has been so many problems and controversies brought up recently that it’s easy to find yourself in a very low and negative space. Even in your personal life, all of our experiences create an emotional reaction in our bodies. We’re either on the positive end of it, or the negative.

These days, we have to find ways to protect what positivity we do have, and find ways to show it in our everyday lives. Between social media, politics, work, school, parenting, marriage and any other responsibility in this world, negativity can somehow creep it’s way into any of these aspects of your life.

Allowing negative energy into your life can cause a lot of emotional draining, negative self-talk, and an overall decline in mood. The key to protecting your positive energy is combatting those negative responses to the negativity, and putting that much more focus on emitting those positive responses and spreading more positive energy (if your positive is greater than your negative, the positive wins, right? 😉).

Now more than ever, we have to learn how to make our positive energy more abundantly present in our lives, because negativity comes in all forms. Here are four ways to protect your positive energy when negative tries to enter your space:

* Saying no to negative people- sometimes the best remedy to negativity is simply telling yourself “no” to keeping those negative people around you. If they do not mean well, then they need to be removed from your atmosphere.

* Giving yourself room for error- Nobody in life is perfect, and sometimes negative energy can be self-inflicted. Do not put yourself on an unattainable pedastal. We all have flaws and we all mess up in life. Give yourself a little room for error and room for positive correction.

* Laugh or cry sometimes- sometimes, you need a moment to let out a healthy, hearty laugh; or have a good cry over things. That’s ok. Never let negative energy build up. If you need to, find healthy ways to deal with that type of energy; laughing, crying or even talking to someone can help eliminate those types of emotions lying dormant in your mind.

* Self-awareness- Being aware of the things you like and don’t like, or having an idea about the energy you’re projecting will allow you to understand how to release negative energy and protect your positive energy.

Adopting these four ways to protect your energy will be key to giving yourself the much needed tools to deal with the negativity, and bring forth more of your “feel-good” emotions. The overall goal is to not allow negativity to live within you; always let your positive attitude prevail!

Self-Care Sunday: Therapy

Wait, what?

I know, I know..

The “T” word is quite intimidating, isn’t it.

Therapy has been something that even I have been hesitant about wanting to try, but I’m realizing how beneficial it would be to my life to have someone who is able to speak with me one-on-one about things that I may not be able to be fully open with with my family and friends. In contrast, i know many people who are not too fond of therapy or counseling, and don’t want to talk to a complete stranger about their innermost thoughts. Neither feeling is wrong, because we’re all different; however, I have seen and read that there are truly some benefits to speaking with a therapist.

There are so many things we deal with in our lives that we may not want to burden our friends with. We don’t want them to worry about us; however, our mental health is just as important as our physical health, so you definitely want to make sure you’re taking the steps to ensure your life is on track mentally.

There are also so many ways that therapy has advanced now in the age of social media, that if you’re not comfortable with seeing someone face to face, you can even have a therapist that you speak with virtually. It’s a pretty cool concept to me, because some people still want a bit of privacy while getting the help they need. It’s hard to sit in front of a person and be completely vulnerable.

For me, writing has always been one of my top methods of self-care, so that I would be able to get everything out that I need to when I’m feeling some type of way. It wasn’t until recently that I seriously looked into therapy, mainly based on the type of job I have. The type of traumatic things I see and go through definitely take a toll on me emotionally and mentally, and pairing that with all the other responsibilities in my life can be emotionally draining at times. I would write about it, but I realized that sometimes writing is not enough.

The most important concept behind this is that you are finding a way to take care of your mental and emotional health, because we sometimes forget about those things. When someone asks how you’re doing and you always say fine, is that really how you’re feeling? I know for me, most times it’s not. Among so many other methods, having an unbiased neutral party to talk to not only will help with processing your emotions, but they can also provide perspective and insight on some of our most complex issues.