When it’s Time to Upgrade Your Status from #Bae to #Wifey 

I believe that in some way, all women are similar in one regard when it comes to relationships; everything is going pretty well, and then all of a sudden, a couple years down the line, they start to get “the itch”. What is the itch you say?  The #Upgrade itch.  I mean picture it; you have been with #Bae for about 4 or 5 years now.  You aren’t getting any younger, and he isn’t getting any younger.  Most people call you “the married couple” anyway because you have been together for so long.  You also start to hint more and more at picking out rings, or what your dream wedding would look like.  Eventually, I think every woman gets “the itch”.

Now one could argue that there is a certain amount of time that you have to wait, before you can start talking about marriage; others will say that there is no specific length of time in a relationship before you start thinking about marriage.  So which side is the right side you ask?  Well, it depends on the relationship!

I was with my husband for about 4 and a half years before he asked me to marry him.  About a month before that, I started to get the itch and started talking about getting married and when we should start thinking about it.  He was very vague with his answers (which made me mad lol), but little did I know, he had already spoken to my mom about proposing to me months before and  had already been looking at rings.  Since I hate being surprised, I was mad when I found out all these things going on behind my back, but it was worth it! 🙂

I feel like anywhere between the 4-5 year mark, is a pretty reasonable time frame to start thinking about marriage.  Most articles I’ve read in the past (when I was trying to figure out if I was crazy for wanting to get married after 4 years of dating lol) say that about 2-3 years is a good amount of time to get to know someone your dating.  I feel that that may very well be true.  I personally feel that if you are in a relationship, listen to your heart and mind and make a sound decision.  If there are some things that are concerning to you about your mate, talk to them about it.  If it turns out that he/she may be in a different place than you are, then maybe it is time to re-evaluate where your relationship is going.  If you come to find out that your mate doesn’t want to be married and you do, that is serious and you are really going to have to look deep inside yourself and decide on whether or not that is something you can deal with.

Some people go through life with their  mate and never get the itch to get married.  It’s not to say that is wrong, because some people live with the “if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it” approach to relationships.  There is nothing wrong with that because not every woman in America wants to get married. Is that a crime? Not necessarily.  If you can live with that, then hey, be happy with your man girl! But for those of us who dream of wedding bells one day, be smart and make sure the man you are with is on the same page as you.  You don’t want to spend your whole life in a relationship with someone, and constantly regret the fact that he will never put a ring on it.

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