Don’t Let Comparison Steal Your Joy

I’m sure we have all heard the quote “comparison is the thief of all joy.”

We as humans live in a world where comparison happens without knowledge. You see a person with a better job, better car, better house, etc. and sometimes we cannot help but compare our lives to others.

What we don’t realize is, when we do this, we take small bits and pieces of our joy away from us. Constant comparisons to other people’s lives does nothing but put you in a position to be pessimistic about your life; or on the flip side, it can cause you to look at others’ lives as inferior to yours (if you are comparing what you have that is better than someone else), and that is a negative trait that no one should want to inherit.

Count your blessings more than counting what you lack: it’s all about your mindset. If you focus on what you have, you will spend less time talking about what you lack. What you have in your life at the time in your life is tailor made for your success. Comparing your life to someone’s else’s doesn’t bring about any positive feelings, because no one’s life is the same, and the timeline for what you want and need in life is not the same as another person’s.

Focus on your goals and how to achieve them: instead of comparing yourself to what others have, try focusing your energy on achieving the goals you have for yourself to project

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A letter to 2019.

I went through some very interesting circumstances this year; some that I’ve never been through before, some even that I have barely been ok enough to talk about. I wasn’t always being 100% for the important people in my life. I wasn’t present for a lot of people I love this year. I wasn’t present for myself. I didn’t set boundaries like I talked about, and I allowed people to take me for granted. I started to question things that I’ve learned, and things I’ve adapted to and wondered if they truly were for me. I was blessed to see another 365 days, and I pray I see another 365 more.

I wanted to make mention of the things that didn’t go quite right for me, in order to set myself up to be more motivated to make sure I don’t repeat the same things. Some of the times I had this past year have been some of the lowest of my life, but my hope is not to dwell on those things; but rather reflect and adjust accordingly so that they don’t happen again.

In 2019, I don’t want to make any big resolutions or anything, but I want to affirm put into the universe that I will truly love me first. When I say love me first, I mean set the boundaries I didn’t set, put the intentions out in the world that will help me evolve. I want to say what I want with strength and weight behind it and don’t make bullshit promises to myself. I want to set a goal, a real one and actually put in the work to achieve it. I want to attain the success I know I’m capable of, and stop acting like good things can’t happen to me.

There are a few things I’d like to step out of the box and try, and I’m making it my mission to do those things in 2019. I’ve realized the only thing stopping me is my own apprehension and doubtful energy. So this year, my goal will be to create the right kind of energy spaces for me to evolve and become my best self, because I know I’m destined for things far better than what they have been, and my only goal is to always stay on the grind to achieve that.

With all this being said, I am hopeful for positive energy. I am aiming for a successful year and meaningful transitions. 2018 is a year that broke me down, but 2019 will be the year I am rebuilt and reborn.

Watch out.

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Project Good Vibes

This week, project that all things you imagine will come together in some way.

The path you seek to follow will open up for you.

Something this week, will set the precedent for your overall goals.

Do not focus on the things that do not work out; but focus on how those things will make you rearrange life for the positive.

Remember all things happen for a reason and what you put in the atmosphere has a way of manifesting in your life.

Be great this week! 🖤

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Dealing with Downs

Most times, I enjoy writing things that people could relate to.  I’m not like other bloggers; I don’t have a “niche” per se, I don’t have a specific thing that I want to talk about all the time on my blog.  But, if you could ball my creative side up and put it into a category, I would call it “Life.”  That’s what I enjoy writing about; sometimes my innermost thoughts, sometimes the things that you are thinking but just won’t say, but most importantly I like to write about the things that I feel the person to my left or right of me is going through also, but are too afraid to bring it to light.  I believe that everyone sometimes has similar problems or trials in life, and we all just need someone to sit down and talk to them about it.

So, with that being said, here is mine.  As I’m sure the greater 475+ of you have noticed, I haven’t written much in a period of about 2-3 months.  I haven’t been on my blog, I haven’t promoted anything, and honestly I haven’t even finished the projects that I intent to publish very soon.  Mentally, I haven’t been in the headspace to create anything that I feel people would care about, but I felt like if nothing more, someone could relate to this very post.  Emotionally, I’ve been on a roller coaster.  It’s something that I don’t want to put so much effort into disclosing, but just know that there are times when you can be at your lowest, and in a split second be on a high; eventually, you ride that high all the way back down to a low point, and that could last for a long while.  I feel just like that, like I’ve been riding an emotional wave between high and low for a while now.  Some days I’ll sit down and crank out 10,000 words for my book or have really good content to write for my blog, and another day I may not have the motivation to do anything and that could last for days.

Sometimes, I am at a complete loss on how to move past those down moments.  It’s really not a fun place to be in. I know there may be several people in the world, creatives especially, that may go through these moments of lows when it comes to doing what you’re passionate about. First and foremost, I have to say keep pushing. No low moment lasts forever, and with proper self-care and self-love, you can pull yourself out. Some of the things I enjoy doing are listening to music, meditating, working out or just basically having alone time and thinking about positive things. I re-read affirmations I have written and journal constantly to try and vent my feelings, but also bring myself out of said funk. I urge anyone going through something similar to find what hobbies and activities put you in your happy place, and build off of those.

For me, I am currently in “pull yourself out of it” mode, and with that will come more writing, more content and overall more happiness.

Stay with me, I’ll be just fine. 🖤

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Dear Awesome,

You are closing out the first quarter of 2018, what do you plan on doing with your month?

What goals do you have set for yourself; are they the same ones you set for yourself at the beginning of the year, or have they evolved?  It is ok if they have changed, nothing in the world is constant.

Don’t beat yourself up if something has not been the same over these past couple of months.  Some things we set out to do did not pan out to be what you intended, but you are still doing GREAT things with the goals you have set in place.

You are in a good place because you have to remember that despite things not being exactly how you planned them to be, you still have not lost sight of your plans; the growth is really showing now.  A year ago, you would have given up on the year already and said “I’m done, this is not going to work for me,” but no, you haven’t done that yet.  That’s growth.

Progress Growth GIF by Insecure on HBO

Think about what your goals are and close out your first quarter strong.  Don’t let anything stop you now, you’ve come this far; why let small, petty things get in your way now?

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Self-Care Sunday: Nourishing Your Creativity

Most of us are in the world of creative entrepreneurship. We all have our own jobs and professional endeavors; however, we also have separate creative projects, businesses or projects that we are building upon in hopes of one day that being our sole means of income or separate and second business business venture.

Most of us spend countless hours at our 9-5, just to turn around and burn our midnight oils with our “5-9” dreams as well. If you’re going through the same things i go through, sometimes we can get a little burnt out, or the fumes tend to run low on the creative scale, when you haven’t had the time to really sit down and take quality time to put your best effort towards your creative goals.

One of the ways that you can stay on top of your self care is nourishing your creativity. Whether it is taking up a new hobby or revitalizing a new one, getting back into your creative nature is a good way to spark your creativity, and put yourself back into positive spirits.

On a personal note, I find myself in a more positive spirit, when I am at my creative peak. When I can put in time writing and creating good content for my blog or my writing projects, I find myself in my best moods. When my creaitvity is blocked, I find that those are the times when I feel I am not in my best of moods and I am struggling with finding my happiness. It definitely shows in my work and my attitude.

Some of the ways I try to nourish my creative juices are by getting good and sound sleep, meditating, exercising, journaling and even creating some reflective down time to sit with my thoughts so that I can play around with different ideas that I’ve had in the past. I find that taking the time for these things help to allow my creativity to flourish and I can be at my best!

What are some of the ways you allow yourself to be your best crestively?

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4 Ways to Protect your Positive Energy

We are living in hectic times in 2018. There has been so many problems and controversies brought up recently that it’s easy to find yourself in a very low and negative space. Even in your personal life, all of our experiences create an emotional reaction in our bodies. We’re either on the positive end of it, or the negative.

These days, we have to find ways to protect what positivity we do have, and find ways to show it in our everyday lives. Between social media, politics, work, school, parenting, marriage and any other responsibility in this world, negativity can somehow creep it’s way into any of these aspects of your life.

Allowing negative energy into your life can cause a lot of emotional draining, negative self-talk, and an overall decline in mood. The key to protecting your positive energy is combatting those negative responses to the negativity, and putting that much more focus on emitting those positive responses and spreading more positive energy (if your positive is greater than your negative, the positive wins, right? 😉).

Now more than ever, we have to learn how to make our positive energy more abundantly present in our lives, because negativity comes in all forms. Here are four ways to protect your positive energy when negative tries to enter your space:

* Saying no to negative people- sometimes the best remedy to negativity is simply telling yourself “no” to keeping those negative people around you. If they do not mean well, then they need to be removed from your atmosphere.

* Giving yourself room for error- Nobody in life is perfect, and sometimes negative energy can be self-inflicted. Do not put yourself on an unattainable pedastal. We all have flaws and we all mess up in life. Give yourself a little room for error and room for positive correction.

* Laugh or cry sometimes- sometimes, you need a moment to let out a healthy, hearty laugh; or have a good cry over things. That’s ok. Never let negative energy build up. If you need to, find healthy ways to deal with that type of energy; laughing, crying or even talking to someone can help eliminate those types of emotions lying dormant in your mind.

* Self-awareness- Being aware of the things you like and don’t like, or having an idea about the energy you’re projecting will allow you to understand how to release negative energy and protect your positive energy.

Adopting these four ways to protect your energy will be key to giving yourself the much needed tools to deal with the negativity, and bring forth more of your “feel-good” emotions. The overall goal is to not allow negativity to live within you; always let your positive attitude prevail!

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