A lot of times, there are lessons that I feel cannot or will not apply to me, even being five years into my marriage; however, 2017 put me in a place where I was struggling with loving myself more than I ever was before. In turn, that put a big strain on parts of my own marriage. I am not ashamed of it; in fact, I think all emotions, whether good or bad are natural and human. No one goes through life feeling perfectly happy all the time. No one can go through life knowing exactly how to navigate their emotions all the time, no matter what stage of life they are in. And just as I say that, I can say that even with a man that loves me endlessly, I still struggled at times with receiving that love, because there were things about me that I could not stand.
There were several points in my life last year that I had to definitely lean on the quotes I referenced above, and learn to dig deep down and find the things that I loved and enjoyed about myself, focused solely on those things in order to pull myself out of the depression that I was feeling about not truly loving myself.
Self-love is also something that is not just mental or emotional, it is also physical and tangible. Sometimes it takes more than just praying, meditating or speaking positive thoughts to yourself. Sometimes you have to dress yourself up, take yourself out on dates, treat yourself to a gift that’s long been overdue, do something that is completely “selfish” in society’s eyes. Some people may think this is a self-centered concept; however, what it really is, is showing how much you value yourself, even when no one else does. When the right person sees your appreciating your worth, they will make sure they put forth the effort to make sure they show their appreciation for you as well.
I believe that we take for granted the one person that we all should be falling in love with first, because we are so busy putting our efforts into someone else, when really, that person should be ourselves. Once we realize that the truth to finding real love is rooted in falling in love with who we are, the possibilities will be endless.