A letter to 2019.

I went through some very interesting circumstances this year; some that I’ve never been through before, some even that I have barely been ok enough to talk about. I wasn’t always being 100% for the important people in my life. I wasn’t present for a lot of people I love this year. I wasn’t present for myself. I didn’t set boundaries like I talked about, and I allowed people to take me for granted. I started to question things that I’ve learned, and things I’ve adapted to and wondered if they truly were for me. I was blessed to see another 365 days, and I pray I see another 365 more.

I wanted to make mention of the things that didn’t go quite right for me, in order to set myself up to be more motivated to make sure I don’t repeat the same things. Some of the times I had this past year have been some of the lowest of my life, but my hope is not to dwell on those things; but rather reflect and adjust accordingly so that they don’t happen again.

In 2019, I don’t want to make any big resolutions or anything, but I want to affirm put into the universe that I will truly love me first. When I say love me first, I mean set the boundaries I didn’t set, put the intentions out in the world that will help me evolve. I want to say what I want with strength and weight behind it and don’t make bullshit promises to myself. I want to set a goal, a real one and actually put in the work to achieve it. I want to attain the success I know I’m capable of, and stop acting like good things can’t happen to me.

There are a few things I’d like to step out of the box and try, and I’m making it my mission to do those things in 2019. I’ve realized the only thing stopping me is my own apprehension and doubtful energy. So this year, my goal will be to create the right kind of energy spaces for me to evolve and become my best self, because I know I’m destined for things far better than what they have been, and my only goal is to always stay on the grind to achieve that.

With all this being said, I am hopeful for positive energy. I am aiming for a successful year and meaningful transitions. 2018 is a year that broke me down, but 2019 will be the year I am rebuilt and reborn.

Watch out.

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How To Take Care of The Right Brain

Many times we talk about self-care, and how important it is to take time out to yourself (it is actually a requirement of mine). What we don’t think about, is to how to also take care of our creative mind. It actually is quite simple, as a lot of the thing you would do to take care of yourself, also will allow you to take care of the part of your brain that thrives in the creativity department. So, to get an idea of how to give your brain the dedicated self-care it deserves, think about these few things when you’re taking the time out for yourself:

  1. Adequate rest – in my humble opinion, a restful mind is a creative mind. Getting an adequate amount of rest and recharging will aide in better productivity and more creativity when working on different projects. I know society’s perspective is 7-9 hours; however, I can function on 6-7. You also have to know your body, because too much sleep can then make you a lot more tired than you were before.
  2. Filling your head with knowledge – I believe that the world is nothing but a big classroom, filled with tools and resources for knowledge. I try to do better at reading the news, different articles about certain topics, writing (or typing if I’m in my phone) random thoughts or ideas that come to me, anything that would help push along the creative rush. I feel the more I learn, the more creative I will be, and I’ll be able to lean on different topics to gain more ideas.
  3. Meditation – sometimes, I find bringing my mind to a certain level of stillness makes me more positive and more productive in the long run.
  4. Positive thought process – if my mind is clouded with negativity, my creative mind is stifled. Writer’s block creeps in, ideas do not flow, a whole mess.

All of these are amazing tips to incorporate into your daily life, because protecting our creativity is important. Those of us who thrive on the idea of creativity and shining in our given talents need to take into account the idea of taking care of ourselves, and our ability to create.

How to Forgive Myself

A few days ago, I listened to a guided meditation that provided a lot of perspective on what I have been going through these past couple of weeks.

It was in reference to forgiving yourself, and how often we forget that the most important person that needs forgiveness, is you.

How many of us on a given day, go through the day making personal mistakes; and instead of giving ourselves a little compassion and room to forgive, we unload on ourselves with doubt and major criticism? Why is this ok, when with other we continue to encourage the art of forgiveness?

Personally, I find it difficult to not hold myself to a higher standard in life, because I know better. When I make mistakes, I feel like I’m failing myself, because I should have never made that decision in the beginning. I’ve had to learn to tell myself that times will not always be perfect and will not always fall into place.

Meditating and reflecting on the concept of forgiving myself has been very eye-opening, as I realized there are several things that I find myself being extra critical about myself.

Today, I plan to take more time to forgive myself, and offer myself some benefit of the doubt in regards to situations that arise in my life. I plan to take advantage of the opportunities to be compassionate for my own actions, just as I am able to show compassion to others in their situations. I feel like maybe, this might make things better during the tough times. 🖤

Dear Discovery,

You made it clear that there was so much more that needed to be done. You allowed me to realize that there was so much more potential than what was being presented.

This was a month of evaluation, but it took a totally different turn than expected. What wasn’t expected was to take a break from blogging; the goals that were set were found to be a bit unrealistic because there was some necessary time from creating that needed to happen.

You helped me realize that what I was trying to attain was a level of perfection that I never intended to attain. Taking a moment to dial it back was just what I needed to re-evaluate and come back stronger.

Thank you, hopefully this will set me up to be even better in the months to come.

If I Knew Now, What I Knew Then….

What do I regret? How can I deal with this?

I’ve actually been thinking about this question for a while now; I even skipped it and came back to it, and I still really don’t have an answer. I don’t really have anything I regret in life; and that’s really how I choose to live, with no regrets.

I’ve always been like this; if I make a decision, I learn to become comfortable with that decision. I don’t have any regrets about decisions I’ve made. I can’t think of anything I have been truly regretful for in my life, which in my opinion is a good thing, because it means I’ve done things with the best intentions and with a clear mind and clear decision.

Always Remember Life Gets Better 

I read this affirmation this morning:

“My life is getting better everyday”

So many times we let the negative things get in the way of the simple fact that waking up in the morning gives us the opportunity to do better than we did the day before.  We let yesterday’s struggles flow into the next day and the next and soon our entire week, month or entire year can be tainted by one day of negativity.  If we adapt the mindset that our life gets better daily, imagine what could be possible in our lives….

Self-Care Sunday Highlight: Free for All! 

Today I didn’t have a specific highlight for Self-Care Sunday, but I wanted to reflect on how hectic my week has been and how important self-care will be for me today.

I’ve had stress, tension and all kinds of emotions coming at me from every direction this week, and it’s caused me to neglect some of my favorite self-care techniques!  I feel so bad because I haven’t taken a single moment for myself and every time I say I will, I end up doing something else for someone else, or doing something for work the just gets me all wound up again.

So, tonight, I’m going to make SURE I get my work done in a decent time frame, get the kid settled down and then take some much needed and much anticipated me time this evening.

This week, even though I’m not highlighting anything specific, I encourage you to look back on some of the highlights of self-care, pick one and apply it to life this week.  Don’t let life’s stressors overwhelm you and take you out of your routine and peace!