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I need small reminders that I have greatness in my soul and I refuse to let anyone dim the light that shines through me. I’m committed to growing and glowing and like the picture says, the world is dealing with a magical MF!!!

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What Are You Leaving in 2017?

This question continues to surround me, and has been for the past couple of days; “what are you leaving in 2017?”

I believe that we ask ourselves this question every year around this time. As we prepare and plan for a new year, we set our new goals and intentions and manifest new and great things for our lives. During that, we tend to bring up the conversation of those people, places and things that we need to keep behind us as we are moving forward and progressing in our lives.

I too, have asked myself this question and given it deep reflective thought for the last couple of days. I’ve tried to summarize in words what, or who I want to leave in 2017 so that I can have a prosperous and successful 2018.

I’ve decided that can be summarized into one concept: Insecurity.

I’ve been insecure about so many things in my life, and it’s time that those thoughts and feelings get left in the past and not be brought into my present. Whether it be about my appearance, my own creative abilities, or my ability to succeed in various business or professional avenues, I have made a promise to myself that I will leave the concept of being insecure about myself and my life in 2017, and go into 2018 confident in myself, secure in my convictions and my intentions and not allowing anyone or anything stop me from pursuing my goals or dreams.

I ask that you do the same thing for yourselves: think of one thing that you want to leave in 2017, but think of how that thing has affected you in a way that you did not feel it was beneficial; and how you plan on reinventing yourself for the new year and leaving that one thing behind in hopes to manifest great and positive thiings for the new year!

A Process Towards Rediscovering Myself

Life’s journey all begins in process.  I whole-heartedly believe that this life we live in is unique and while everyone has the same overall goal of happiness; the way in which we achieve that happiness is vastly different.  We all have our own journeys that we will face, we all have our own truth to discover along the way, but most importantly, the way in which we all get to our destinations; our process throughout this life, is vastly different and it is the defining factor in how we become who we are and what our purpose is in life.  All of these things tend to blend together at some point in our lives; but one thing that will always remain certain is that no two people on this earth share the exact same process and I believe that is truly what makes the world diverse.

As we all go through life, we all are completing a process; no matter how big or small it may be.  We are being tested in many different aspects and what we learn and the things we gather from those tests help shape us and help us to understand our truth.  The more I reflect on this in a more personal manner, I find myself focusing more on the idea of my process and how that leads me on a pathway towards defining myself on a deeper level as I transition into a new chapter in my life; one several of us may be or will be familiar with at one point in our lives; Chapter 30.

I’m currently 29, and only have seventeen days officially until I turn the big 3-0.  In the last few years, I have begun a process of my own to start developing a deeper understanding and a deeper level of self-discovery.  I felt like I only knew myself on a superficial level and wanted to know more about what my truth was and what it would be as I began to mature into a new era of my life.  Lately, 30 has felt more like turning the last page of a chapter, and beginning a new one.  I can literally feel a shift in my life happening; a positive shift that I am mentally, spiritually, physically and emotionally preparing for.  I’ve matured in so many ways and grown in so many ways in the last few years, and I want to see how those things begin to settle and manifest themselves as I grow into my 30’s and beyond.

For so long, I have had this “unknown” feeling about myself.  I have finally started to sort out just what it is in my life that I want to do and want to accomplish, and I feel like I will be able to accomplish those things as I go into “Chapter 30.”  I know life always sends you unknowns, but I feel like I will be more prepared for them now than I was in my 20’s.

One thing I’ve learned going through this personal process thus far, is that it is not always an easy task, and just like anything in life, it will have its barriers.  Your process may be stunted by obstacles that are completely beyond your ability to control.  Oftentimes, the uncontrollable obstacles are the most difficult ones to overcome, because they are beyond our realm of understanding.  They are the ones you want to fix the most but you know deep down you cannot fix them.

The reality is, your life’s process will bring about all of these things; good times and bad, the key is focusing on how you overcome those things and how those different experiences shape you as a person.  These experiences are why develop you as a person and what help you tell the world who you truly are to this universe.

I hope that with my process, I am able to gain all that the universe has in store for me.  I hope to find out the wonderful things and even the ugly truths about myself.  I hope that my process is one that will build me up to be someone to withstand some of life’s greatest struggles; because that is how you know when you can survive the hardest battles.

Loving Yourself

Q: Do I like what I look like? Why? Why not?

It took a long time for me to finally be able to answer this question with a “yes.” For the longest time, I would say yes, but be lying to myself. I was always the “awkward” girl. I never saw myself as someone that people were always looking at or gawking over because they were just that good to look at. I’ve always just felt average and mediocre. For that reason, I’ve sort of liked what I look like, but never really been 100% confident in my appearance.

Even at the age of 29, I’m slowly tapping into liking what I look like. There are days when I am feeling myself and other days when I’m definitely not. I’m slowly growing into the life of makeup and lipstick, which has made me feel a little better about myself on some days. I still battle insecurity, which I feel is common with anyone; I think we all have some insecurities that we aren’t proud of, but I try to keep myself confident and remember to love myself and remember that there are features about myself that I do enjoy and I capitalize on those.

Overalll, in a short answer, I guess I could say for now I do like what I look like; but there are parts of me that I am learning to enhance, improve and even  accept what will not or cannot change.  That is apart of growth and maturity for me.

Learning to Forgive and Forget

Do I easily forgive or hold a grudge?

I’ll be honest; depending on what it was that made me upset in the first place, I have the tendency to hold a grudge sometimes. I am definitely one who will forgive but never forget, and I’m not proud of it sometimes.

I know that forgiveness is about letting things go and moving on. You have to be able to let go of what hurt you in order to move on to the next; however, there are times when even the most forgiving person can find that difficult. There have been things that have happened to me that have been hard to let go of; and I have held a bit of a grudge about them. One thing I’ve had to learn was that in order to move on and grow and learn from those experiences is to learn forgiveness.

Some of the strongest people I know have learned the aspect of forgiveness and learned that you can forgive but not forget; and still manage to move on with life in a positive way without having that one experience taint your relationship with a person.

Do You Stand Out, or Go With the Flow?

Do I speak up or go along with the crowd?

To be honest, it depends on the situation.  If it's something that I don't particularly agree with or something that I KNOW for a fact I will not be comfortable doing or being a part of, I simply won't do it or I will voice my opinion about it.  If it is something that I don't have a problem with and there is a general consensus about it, I don't mind going along with the crowd.  For me, the key to this is determining what it is I'm actually choosing to be a part of, and whether or not it will have a positive or negative effect on my life.

One flaw about myself is that I am such a soft-spoken person by nature, I'm not a big fan of confrontation; so if there is something I don't agree with going on, I'm more than likely just going to disengage from that situation entirely, as opposed to confronting a person initially. That is always how I have been (I believe I get this trait from my father's side of the family).

I do feel that I should be more outspoken about things (in which if it's very serious I definitely will be outspoken about it) that bother me, because how would anyone know something bothers you if you don't make it known? It's one of those things I'm working on as I approach thirty and would like to have been more confident in so that instead of me disengaging, I can be up front with someone to let them know what I do and do not agree with.

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#50Days50Questions: The Present, The Past or The Future…

Do I live in the present moment? Live in the past? Future?

Hmm…..Good question, Lol.

I feel like your past experiences shape and mold you for your present and future, but the key is to not dwell in those past experiences.  I try hard not to dwell; however, I am not perfect, and I do have the tendency to slip into that mindset on occasion.  I bring up previous incidents and it allows me to bring those emotions into my present.  Before I know it, I’m all over the place emotionally.

I am a work-in-progress, so dwelling on past emotions and situations is something that I am learning not to do so frequently; but rather, taking those moments as learning experiences for my present and learning how to apply the lessons learned to everyday life.  By doing that, it helps me not make the same mistake twice, and helps me to remember that I am not forgetting what happened, but also on the pathway towards forgiveness of that situation as well (so I am essentially learning two lessons in one 🙂 ).

Overall, I would the answer to this question is this: I do my best to allow my past experiences to teach me how to live better in the present, and to also teach me how to mold my future.

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