A Social Media Pause for the Cause

I believe it is time for a pause on social media; and by pause, I mean particularly posting on my social media.

I feel at this time, the only things that I can really express is negative energy. I have a lot of personal things going on at the moment, with really no outlet in sight on how to express them properly; so I have been making the not-so-right choice in expressing myself via social media. This is typically something I do not like to do, as I do not like to have that slight mirror into my personal dealings. In light of this discovery, I feel like it is best to keep myself a little more private than I typically would.

You may see me lurking around, looking at things, but not saying much. I will still have my blog and comment and post things, I also will continue to use my Twitter and Author page on FB for content and ways to promote my book; however, anything of a social and recreational nature will get a little pause from me until I can find ways to appropriately separate my personal feelings from my online social environment.

Until next time friends….

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Time.

Stop wasting time.

Stop believing that you always have time.

If you feel a certain way, say it.

If you want to do something, do it.

If you want to be something, become it.

Stop telling yourself there is time for everything, or “I’ll do it next time.”

Opportunities are only as good as the moment they walk into your life; and if you’re not careful, you’ll miss the opportunity to truly enjoy living.

Can you say at this moment, that you’ve taken advantage of all the time you have in this world? I know I can’t; which is why I have to start seizing the day no matter what.

Life comes at you fast, hard and sometimes rough as hell. The key to surviving is living, with no regrets and making this the best life you can, despite the mountains you may have to climb.

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Being Available for You

How many times do we clear our calendars, shuffle and scramble to make room for others, but when it comes to our own personal availability, we do not show the same effort?

With jobs, children, significant others/spouses, family, etc., it is very hard to say that you want to carve out time for yourself, when you have so many competing priorities in your life.  So how do you find the time?

You make the time and you commit to yourself.¬† It’s easy for us to make commitments to other people, even ones that may even be unrealistic to attain, but when it comes to putting forth that same attitude towards our own lives, we tend to draw back and say “no, I don’t need to.”

YES, YOU VERY MUCH NEED TO!¬† 2018 is the year that we are all saying we are “living our best life”, and we all need to actually start doing that.¬† We need to start making ourselves priority number one.¬† If not, how can you even try to make time for anyone else to be a priority?¬† How will you have the energy, the determination or the dedication to put your best foot forward for someone else, when you cannot even show that same energy towards your own life.

I personally get it; I have a husband, a child, nephews, family, and a very demanding job.¬† I understand fully what it means to put forth all of this energy towards these other things and leave me on the back burner.¬† My one example of that was when I was working out.¬† Between all of the other things going on in my life, I neglected the one thing I loved doing, working out.¬† For six months, I made excuses as to why I was not taking out the time for myself to go to the gym like I should have been, and I suffered greatly for it.¬† It wasn’t until March when I realized that in order for me to be my best self, I need to make time for myself.¬† That is when I got my motivation back to go to the gym consistently, and I am seeing major results from it.

Now, I can still manage to give to those who need me most, but I start my day off in the gym, so I am committing to giving to myself first.

For the second half of 2018, we should all adapt a mentality that says that we need to make more time for ourselves.  We need to remember that priority number one is our health, well-being and mental stability; because without those things, how can you do anything or give 100% to anything else in your life, when you refuse to give 100% to yourself?

-Whit C.

My Free Time is Not Free

Lately I’ve been doing a lot of self-evaluation; an effort in trying to become a better “me”, if you will. I’ve been through some scenarios that have provided the shocking conclusion that my “free time” is never actually “free”.

People spend an unnecessary amount of time trying to figure out what it is they want to do, and then get upset when they do not have the energy and time to do it because they’ve been catering to everything else that does not agree with the concept of free time.

I’m sure there are several occasions when you’ve told yourself you’re going to have a free day, and do things that you truly enjoy, but our productivity mindset is so wired in that we end up doing things that do not align with what our intentions were. Then at the end of it all, you wonder “did I actually even give myself a break?”

I’ve done this far too often; I even did it last night. I intended to do one thing for 5 minutes, and then spend the rest of the time reading. I ended up spending 45 minutes doing work related things, because it would have helped me be more productive the next day. What I really did, is cheated myself out of valuable minutes to myself, doing something I thoroughly enjoy (which is reading a good book).

I guess the million-dollar question for me is: why do we do this to ourselves? Why does society always live in a wave of self-sabotage? The world may never know. What I do know, is that we should begin to take more conscious opportunities to really seize the chance at embracing our free time and not making it about productivity. Life is tough, and you’re allowed to have a few lazy moments here and there. Whenever you have a moment to truly do what you want, or nothing at all; take that chance! You may never know when you’ll get a golden moment like that again.

Live Every Moment as if it Were Your Last

If I only had 6 months to live, how would I spend my time?

I'm not going to lie, I actually skipped this question because it was not really something I wanted to write about; but I told myself that I wouldn't skip any questions no matter how difficult they may be or may make me feel.

This is definitely something I don't think about often, and with me being so young it is not a question I would particularly like to dwell on at all; however, it does make you wonder about the concept of life in general.

Although I cannot sit here and pinpoint exactly how much time God will grant me to be on this Earth, I know that I, just like everyone else, only have a specific amount of time.  In that time, we are given the opportunity to make the most of our lives.  We are awarded the chance to live out our absolute best life possible.  With that I will say I would spend my time laughing with family.  I wouldn't spend my time filled with worry, or self-doubt, or angst about trivial things.  I would want to travel, see the world, laugh endlessly with my loved ones and make every moment be better than the last.

Truth be told, that's how we all should live life anyway, right?

Self-Care Sunday Highlight: Reading 

This weeks highlight is one of my favorite hobbies in the entire world: reading!

Nothing helps calm my nerves more than retreating into the world of someone else for hours and hours on end; which is why I love reading so much! ¬†I’ve been reading for as long as I can remember, but I know that it became an undying habit in middle school. ¬†Now, I have books everywhere in my house.

Reading may not have many health benefits, but I know I consider it a part of my self-care because of the escape it gives me from my reality. ¬†With the type of job I have, sometimes I take breaks from work and read things hat have nothing to do with my job. ¬†Being that it’s so traumatic, I try to take time to take my mind completely opposite of that subject; reading helps with that. ¬†It also helps that I try to read things that will put me in a pretty good mood, inspire me to try new and different things, or motivate me to push towards my creative goals.

This week, escape the realities of adulthood and pick up a book, magazine, blog article or something that will put you in an uplifting mood.