Stop wasting time.

Stop believing that you always have time.

If you feel a certain way, say it.

If you want to do something, do it.

If you want to be something, become it.

Stop telling yourself there is time for everything, or “I’ll do it next time.”

Opportunities are only as good as the moment they walk into your life; and if you’re not careful, you’ll miss the opportunity to truly enjoy living.

Can you say at this moment, that you’ve taken advantage of all the time you have in this world? I know I can’t; which is why I have to start seizing the day no matter what.

Life comes at you fast, hard and sometimes rough as hell. The key to surviving is living, with no regrets and making this the best life you can, despite the mountains you may have to climb.



#50Days50Questions: Where Do You See Yourself…?¬†

Where/how would I like to see myself in a year? 10 years?

In a year, I’d like to believe that I could be progressing towards a better overall level of happiness.

But to be honest, I have no idea; and that might be kind of scary for some, but honestly this is one my of least favorite questions to answer.  I never know what or how I see myself in the future.

I’ve been trying to answer this question for about three days now, and I have no idea where I will be in a year, five years or ten years.  What I do hope and pray is I will be better, wiser, stronger, and better than I am in this year.  Right now, that’s all I can ask for.

The things I am doing today are shaping me to become a better person 365 days later.  That’s truly all I can ask for at this point.

This is about all I have for this question…I’ll try to do better with the next one, lol.

Sometimes you Will Suffer Alone

My first time watching Iyanla Fix My Life was on 5/20 (yea yea I know), when she attempted to fix the lives of a mother and her six children. ¬†For the sake of spoilers, I won’t go into a long detailed account of everything I saw, but I will say that they had a host of deep issues that left me wondering if they would ever find the path towards forgiveness and healing. ¬†I sat on my couch, phone in hand along with my fellow #BlackTwitter family as we hashtagged our way through this episode of drama, with our mouths gaping open in shock at all the tea being spilled.

As I was watching, Iyanla said something that I had realized I often thought about it and learned myself recently (which also left me wondering why on earth I had been missing out on these gems for so long).  So, Iyanla screams out in her voice in only a way that she could:

“You cannot get someone to agree with your experience.”

Whoa. Issa word.

This was pretty interesting quote and I have to say it stuck with me for some time now. ¬†I took some time to really think about how much I had done the very thing this daughter was trying to do with her mother; make her understand and feel what she had gone through, even when it was clear that her mother was going to disagree with her at every turn. ¬†When reflecting on my own personal experiences with this, I had learned the hard way that just because I was experiencing something in my life and had my personal emotional opinion about it doesn’t mean that everyone is going to be on board with me.

Sometimes, you are going to be alone in your feelings. ¬†There will be times that you will not have a soul who is for you and how you feel, and you have to be ok with that. ¬†Your goal is not to badger and fight your way into people seeing your point. ¬†Your goal is to not push and project your emotions onto others. ¬†The best thing you can do is express to someone how you feel, and hope that they understand and can provide some level of empathy, but it doesn’t mean that they will always agree.

Focusing your attention into making someone understand how your experience was with something may not give you the desired result; because oftentimes, we want that person to feel how we felt, understand our anger/rage/sadness; and sometimes, they still have no remorse for us. So what have you gained in all putting all that energy in forcing your experience onto someone? Not. A. Thing.

I notice that sometimes Iyanla may not always have the best approach to delivering her mesage, but on this episode, she spoke a word to me, and it’s something that even in my own life I have to remember to carry with me at times. ¬†You have to remember that people will not always agree with what you’ve been through; you can only pray that the person you reach out to for comfort is willing to show empathy and understanding to your situation.

-Whit C.

The Reveal

The recent publishing of my first novel,¬†Playing with Fire¬†(which is still available for purchase, click the link!)¬†has sparked a fire in me that I have never had for my writing. ¬†Because of that, I have begun pulling together some of my favorite pieces for a poetry book (who’s title I am not ready to release at this time, lol.)

Continue reading “The Reveal”

Know your Lane

A lot of people tend to speak on subjects in which they know nothing about. We want to peg ourselves as experts, yet haven’t done the edtensive research behind those aspects; or better yet, they just have not lived in them. ¬†I like to believe that there is always a life twin; a person who has gone through things exactly as you have and can give you the wisdom of their experiences.

For those of us, who are looking for the answers to life’s struggles, who long to find their twin; they are out there.

And for those of you, who disguise yourselves as those who have been here before and done that more than once, but truthfully haven’t the slightest idea how to help those who long for support through their struggle; know your place in this world, know your lane. And stay there.