Spring Cleaning Your Relationships

With the springtime in full swing, it’s not uncommon for you to get the feeling to want to do.a cleanse of sorts through your life. Some people clean their homes, while others may focus more on their personal lifestyles and determine what needs to be flushed out and what does not. Starting the spring season by getting rid of any toxic of negative relationships is one of the great ways to start the season, and a way to make room for new positive relationships.

If you currently are dealing with someone or several people that do not bring any positive benefits to your life, who constantly bring your mood down, or who don’t mean any good to you or are always negative; it may be time to release them from your life at the inception of this new season.  There is no reason to bring that type energy into your Spring and Summer 2018 if you do not have to.  It may be time to make a clean break from those who are not in your life with the intention to bring you any joy or happiness.  This even includes some of your closest relationships; such as family and significant others.

Oftentimes, we hold on to what we believe are our most important relationships because of their title or their hierarchy in our lives.  In all actuality, even some of the closest people to you may only be meant to last in life for a specific period of time before it is time to cleanse yourself of them.

So, before the spring comes in full force, will you be taking a hard look at your relationships and determining who stays and who goes?


Self-Care Sunday Highlight: Removing Toxic People from Your Life 

When you feel like there is an abundance of negativity weighing you down, sometimes you have to look to the people around you and determine if they are bringing toxic vibes to your life.  If you find that they are, removing them is always the best option.  Sometimes, this may include removing people closest to you (i.e. family and friends), but at times, making that tough decisions to remove those people who are causing negative energy to be present in your life is the best way to move towards more positive self-care and preservation of your sanity.

Removing toxic people from your life can be a big refresher when those people are the primary cause of stress, negativity and an improper imbalance in our personal lives.

This week, if you’re feeling like there are people in your life who are causing some unneeded stress and toxic vibes in your life, do a much needed re-evaluation of the need and value of them in your life and decide if letting them go is the best option to improving your life and mood altogether.

REPOST: The Toxic Optimist

So I frequently listen to The Friend Zone podcast, and just like every episode, it gave me shocking insight on a topic that I have never thought about: toxic positivity.

They discussed how a Facebook post led to a comment talking about how positivity can be toxic for people; how the mere notion of giving someone an encouraging word during their dark times could in fact make it worse, rather than better.

It’s been a few weeks since the podcast aired, but it’s been something on my mind since I listened to it. I feel like sometimes I am a suspect in the crime of being toxic with my positivity and always being so optimistic.

I wouldn’t say I’ve had a horrible life; in fact, I’ve been pretty blessed despite some things. I’ve had some trials and troubles, but there’s always been a light at the end of the tunnel, and I try to remember that some are not awarded the luxury of having those lights themselves. Because of that, I tend to see the shred of optimism in any situation.  I try to provide encouragement to my friends and family, and let them know I’m there for them; and I truly want to be there for them.

The more I think about it, the more I realize that maybe I shouldn’t be so optimistic all the time.  I’m wondering if I do more harm then good, always being the optimist and always trying to find the good in situations.  Some situations just suck, and maybe I don’t always need to have something good to outweigh the bad.  It’s a tough line to walk, but I feel like sometimes people want to just tell me to stop being so optimistic all the time.  That most days, being so optimistic jusr really isn’t the option at that time.

I’m not ashamed of my personality, but I also don’t want to be a disservice to the ones I love.  I have felt that personally I need to learn to allow my loved ones that moment to vent, and just be there to listen.  I want them to know that if my optimism doesn’t help, then I apologize and don’t intend it to add onto your pain. My heart wants to give love to people, especially those who I hold close. And most of all, I want to see them happy with life.

It’s a pipe dream to think that everyone’s lives will be perfectly in tact and happy, but I also want them to know that no matter how small, there is a light at the end of the tunnel.  Sometimes the positivity can cultivate something good out of a bad situation.  There is another side to the bad times.