Self-Discipline. Self-Love.

Lately I’ve been channeling more ways to love myself, before I put myself in the position to find the passion and love for other things. I feel like in every aspect of life, you need to love yourself in order to have the positive energy to be the best you can for your life (we all want to live our best life, right?). After realizing that even in some of the things I thoroughly enjoy doing weren’t even peeking me up, I realized that my overall happiness with myself, caused me to not even be happy about anything I do. So I started to look myself in the mirror, and tell the blunt truth:

“Girl, you need to get YOURSELF the hell together.”

And thus , we begin the process to self love and respect because I’ve been trippin’.

I watched a video on Will Smith’s Instagram, that eluded to self-love beginning with self-discipline. So I decided to look up what discipline really means.


a : control gained by enforcing obedience or order

b : orderly or prescribed conduct or pattern of behavior

So, with that being in place, I began to dig deeper into how one would need to begin a self-love process, and it’s very relatable to obtaining a level of discipline that relates to this:

“I’m going to enforce and be obedient to the process of loving myself.”

In order to love yourself, you have to teach yourself the discipline. If you do not have self discipline, how can you be obedient enough to love yourself properly?

This can apply to several parts of life. Loving yourself means loving wholly; mind, body and spirit. This can come from even the smallest commitment of obedience and change. For example, choosing to meditate for 5 minutes a day before bed is a small change, but could yield an impactful result, and even expand into a deeper and more meaningful practice with discipline and routine.

I realized that even over time, as I told myself “I’m going to focus on loving myself more”, because my level of self-criticism is through the roof; I really wasn’t truly doing the work needed to commit to that statement. I would find and adapt different hobbies, try to set my days differently, etc. and I realized I was really only touching the surface. I wasn’t really being honest with myself and figuring out how to fix those things. And here I was, wondering why I still woke up some mornings and couldn’t get out of bed because I was so dissatisfied with life.

Now that I’ve been able to really assess my life, and determine what and how I want it to go, I’ve been more apt to begin with setting up obligations and expectations for myself (in small doses), to make myself more disciplined towards living a life where the love for myself shows externally and internally. Without it, you truly cannot be someone who can love other things and people, because you will not be able to find the beauty in life. Begin your journey with assessing how disciplined you are to a change in your life, and that is when you will start obtaining whats necessary to lead the life you will come to love.



Celebrating the Journey: 2016 Recap 

I think we can all agree that for the most part, 2016 had some pretty rough patches, lol. The important thing is I came out of it with my health and sanity in tact; so first, let’s toast to that! 

As I prepare to close out this year, I am sitting back and reminiscing on some of the greatest moments of the year.  I can admit that despite some of the bad things going on in the world, I managed to make some pretty awesome memories throughout. 

One thing I’m most proud of is publishing my first novel.  To this day, I still can’t believe I achieved that goal of writing an entire book.  It’s even manifested into something so much more and I have so many ideas in the works just from this.  This has been a goal of mine for some time now and I am so glad that it came to pass.

This caused me to realize that I know and intend to conquer any dreams I set up for myself.  I know I have so much in my brain I want to achieve in my life, and with #Year30 approaching, there are so many more things I want to see come to fruition in my life.

Another aspect of life I improved was personal growth and self-care.  I feel like every year I grow more and more each day and choosing to make my well-being a top priority has helped with that.  2016 was definitely a year I attempted to be different than previous years.  My core never changed, but I made changes in my lifestyle that have remained consistent and kept me going in the right direction. 

Most of us are barely hanging on to 2016; I know because although I’ve had some good moments, I had quite a few bad ones too.  Needless to say, I’m like everyone else in 2016; hanging on by a thread and praying for better times in 2017.  

I think we’ll make it, y’all. We just have to keep swimming…