Being married for 5 years thus far has taught me a lot about myself, my spouse and the idea of marriage as a whole. The one thing I have learned is that there are times when you can feel quite old in your relationship sometimes, and it is not the best feeling by any means. Along with the growing pains of marriage, we all have gotten to a point in our marriage, where we can sometimes feel a lot older than we are. There are a lot of contributing factors to this; jobs, kids, chores and other daily responsibilities in the house, bills, you name it! When you’re thinking about all of these things, it is difficult to remember to keep your relationship young and fresh all the time.
Since I’m sure some of us have been in this predicament before, I also know that you would want to know how to fix it. Well, I have thought of a few things that will make you feel young again, when your relationship is getting older and older by the minute.
Make time for one another: A lot of times, we mistake the time we are around our partners as “quality time” when in all reality, we are just existing around them while we continue to move on with everyday life. It is worth taking actual time out to spend time connecting with your partner, and it will make all the difference. Making time for your partner, that does not involve dealing with the children, washing the dishes together or focused on other obligations or activities is a good starting point for reviving the newness of your relationship.
Spontaneity: Have you ever wanted to surprise your partner with a random lunch date, a day trip to your favorite place close by, or even a kid-free, responsibility-free weekend out of the blue? If so, then being spontaneous is for you. Doing random things at the spur of the moment can bring life back into you and your relationship, because you are learning to let go and go with the flow with someone you truly know you can have a good time with.
Intimacy: Intimacy on all levels is a great way to rekindle the spark in your marriage. Whether it is physical, emotional or even spiritual; having a level of intimacy in your relationship really helps improve your connection with one another.
Dating: And no, I don’t mean dating other people while in your relationship, LOL. I believe that “dating” your significant other or spouse gets lost in the daily routine of married life. With all the responsibilities and priorities, going on a romantic date may always seem to fall to the bottom of the list; and even if you try, there may be something that always comes up. Scheduling and planning time to actually date again can really turn things around in your relationship. It allows you to learn new things about your partner (maybe things that you did not even know or things that have newly developed over the years), and it can be fun “getting to know” your partner all over again.
All of these steps and many more are guaranteed to make you have a differnt outlook on your relationship, if you feel like the newness is starting to wear off, and you both are getting comfortable. Trying out new things is almost like dating all over again; before the commitments, babies, jobs, bills, etc. If you truly find excitement in making your relationship feel young and new again, focus on these four items to really enhance your relaltionship and take you both on significant and meaningful journey towards a happy, healthy relationship.