Dear Radiant,

You seemed to have quite a glow about you this month! Was there something different about you?  New hair?  New clothes?  Nah, just an overall new me!

First off, you’ve been a lot more centered than usual; attribute that to your new meditation schedule that you’ve started (going on 60 days consecutively twice a day now; so pat yourself on the back for that lol).  You’re slowly getting back into your fitness routine, which may not be a daily thing, but it is slowly coming back around.  Practice always makes perfect, and one day you will get there.  There have just been some great things going on in your life, and it’s just made things become so much better for your; overall, you should be very proud of yourself 🙂 .

For the first time in a long time, there was actually nothing to complain about this month, which is very rare.  Looking back on these 28 days, there is nothing more that you could ask for.  You had your usual life and adulating stressors, and some not so good moments (but it wouldn’t be life if there weren’t any good moments, right?); but there have been so many good moment than there have been bad.  There have also been so many more moments where you have laughed more than you cried.  All in all, you couldn’t have asked for a better month to celebrate a great life.  Cheers to February 2018!


Life Isn’t Linear: How Getting from Point A to Point B Gets Interesting

How many of us get from Point A to point B in straight path with no issues or bumps along the way?
None of us?  Thought so, lol.
I don’t know anyone who has taken a straightforward route to get to where they are today.  The pathway to success is not a guaranteed “one-way street” and it is definitely not one that will not take you on a journey that will not test you.  Sometimes, we get to live our best lives, but getting to our finish line means taking some crazy routes along the way.
Up to this point, if you asked me if I ever imagined life would go this way, or turn out the way that it has for me, I would have never guessed that things would have taken the twists and turns that they have.  I cannot say that some of the things I have been proud of, and I DEFINITELY am not going to sit here and say that I am happy with everything that has happened, because there are some times I wish I could turn around and do over (if there was a way to turn back time and see if there was an alternate route, don’t you wish I would do that in a heartbeat?!); but more than ever, I am happy about the lessons this life has taught me.  I am proud of the path I have created for myself and the person I have grown into because of what this journey has taught me in the end so far.
I took this quote out of an article I read today and it couldn’t have rang more true:
“Nothing about your life is linear.  Your work will not be linear.  Your relationships will not be linear.  Your future will not be linear.”
I have never expected life to be a straight-laced, “A-to-Z” type deal.  I expect no circumstance in my life to be no different than the last one, and no life lesson to be the same than the last one.  Each experience that I deal with is nothing more than another stepping stone on my journey, another tool in my toolbox to build upon the wisdom I want to instill in those I encounter along the way; and especially for my daughter, who is now someone who has joined me along for this bumpy ride called life.
There will be days when I will take two steps forward, three steps backwards, five steps to the left and maybe even two more steps to the right.  No matter what may happen, all of these things will be happening for the good, and will get me moving towards what’s next for me.  No matter what my “Point B” will be, it will be faced with all the openness and the trust I have to offer it, because there’s no looking back for me now.

Self-Care Sunday: Baggage Claim

Bag lady…

You gon’ hurt yo back,

Draggin’ all them bags like that….

Why do we carry all of our baggage around with us in every situation in our lives? Why is it that with every negative experience, we don’t take time to release whatever it is and whatever weight that goes with that experience, so that we don’t carry that “baggage” with us wherever we go?

This week, I reflected on how much people tend to wear themselves down with the idea of carrying around old experiences and old wounds, and projecting those things negatively into new experiences and onto new people. By doing that, you already taint what good things you have going in your life, instead of taking the time to put those bags down and setting them aside once those past experiences are done and out of your life.

I believe that certain “baggage” in life is meant to either be carried with you throughout your life and be utilized, to be put aside and picked up again one day when up need it, or to put aside and released completely. It is up to you to discern what baggage is released or kept and when it is done. The key is to know when it is best to do these things, and not allow the things that need to be released to linger on in your life too long, for fear that they will effect positive outcomes in your life!!

Happy Anniversary Write, Live and Love

Today, 3 years ago, I started my journey towards blogging on this very site.

Since that time, I’ve been through many names, many ideas, many themes, concepts and styles.

One thing that’s remained the same is this: I love writing for my followers and I love sharing my small part of the world with you.

Thank you all for riding with me down this path called life. Thank you for looking into the world through my eyes every week.

I hope you continue to stay with me and see all the new and amazing content I’m bringing to you all.

Here’s to things becoming better and better in the years to come.



#BlackGirlMagicGoals: Ava Duvernay

My last and final feature for Black History Month on #BlackGirlMagicGoals is the one and only Ava Duvernay, the filmmaker and director extraordinaire!

Ms. Duvernay is a writer, film maker, director, producer and screenwriter.  Ava began her film maker career in 2008 with her feature documentary, This is the Life. From there, she did a combination of directed, wrote, produced and executive produced a number of documentaries, shows, movies and television shorts, pilots, and video movies.

Ava also has mass popularity for creating and writing the hit series Queen Sugar.

  • She has won four Emmy’s, a BAFTA and a Peabody Award
  • As the director of Selma, she became the first African-American woman director to be nominate for a Golden Globe (2014) and the first African-American woman to have her film to be nominate for an Academy Award that year (2015)
  • Ava also has mass popularity for creating and writing the hit series Queen Sugar.
  • She directed one of the most critically-acclaimed documentaries of 2016, 13th.
  • She directed one of the most anticipated movies of 2018, the adaptation of the book, A Wrinkle in Time (a book I own).

Ava’s constant drive and her work ethic is something I admire and want to have in my endeavor in this creative industry.  Seeing her work and how she takes on this industry, being a woman of color and a minority in her particular industry is something that I see as a challenge I want to take on myself.  She uses that as a fuel to drive herself towards being one of the best and that is why I see her as a Black girl who rocks this month!


Forgiveness Is Truly a Gift

Learning the new developments of the Rae Carrutth story have taught me nothing more than this one conclusion; forgiveness is truly a gift for those who have studied and learned it thoroughly.

A couple of days ago, you may have seen an article or two come out about a 15-page letter that Mr. Carruth penned to Rae’s girlfriends mother, detailing how he is now a changed man and how he has now had time to contemplate his mistakes and now wants a chance to fight for custody of his 18-year old son, Chancellor Lee Adams, who has been raised his entire life by his grandmother, Saundra Adams. His mother, Cherica Adams was killed by gunshots wounds inflicted by men who were said to be hired by Carruth to shoot and kill Ms. Adams, who were sentenced to 40 years in prison. As a result of the shooting, Ms. Adams died, and Chancellor suffered brain damage and has cerebral palsy. He has suffered several challenges from birth into his teenage and young adult life.

Rae is due to be release in October 2018, after serving 17 years in prison for his crimes. Mr. Carruth still strongly desires a relationship with his son, and even wants the chance at having custody of him, his argument being that Ms. Adams being older in age and not being around long enough to take care of him. Ms. Adams counters that argument, being confident that there is no way that he will ever have custody of Chancellor, being that he is the very person that wanted him murdered in the first place; and there are several viable family members in place that are willing to take Chancellor should anything ever happen to her.

What struck me to be quite surprising, is that Ms. Saundra even considered the idea of allowing Rae to even allow visitation to happen with Rae and Chancellor after he was released. I read an article that stated that upon his release, she was open to allowing the two to have supervised visitation. She stated that, “I’ve forgiven Rae already, but to have any type of relationship with him, there does have to be some repentance,” Adams said. “And I think this opens the door”

Girl, that’s strength; a strength I wouldn’t know I would have.

I personally have to applaud Ms. Adams in this moment, because I don’t know how many of us would have the qualities to dig deep enough to find it in our hearts to believe that a man has repented their sins, and trusted their own faith to forgive a man who murdered our child, disabled our grandchild and allowed them the opportunity to have a relationship with their living parent. I cannot say right now on this day in 2018 that I have developed that level of forgiveness yet.

I have to say that I believe that Rae most believe that Rae doesn’t deserve the privileges that he’s being given from Ms. Adams. I believe that in my spirit. He’s responsible for her murder and responsible for the dams he done to their child and its even a surprise that he’s being released from jail to see the light of day. In the letter he wrote, even Ms. Adams stated that she can tell that there are parts of him that she can read that are still the same him that she knew so long ago, but still parts of him that she can tell have matured and grown; parts of him she can see may have actually been changed throughout these years of being in prison. He states that’s he’s found God, he’s realized that he needs to take ownership for what he’s done and that he also needs to take responsibility in raising his son; however, one would beg to argue, do you deserve that right after the damage you’ve done to him?

How many of us face situations where we are not mentally, emotionally or spiritually prepared for? I believe this happens on more occasions than we’d like to admit; and we are caught in circumstances where we tend to forgive or make amends with people or compromise in situations where in our spirits we are not particularly ready to. I feel in reading these articles, although Ms. Adams may not have agreed with what Rae did to her daughter, she was ready to forgive him for what he had done, if he had truly done the work within himself to know that what he had done was wrong and he had repented his sins. That is a woman who truly believes in her Word.

Based on further things I’ve read, there is a lot of back and forth about him wanting custody and things of that nature, and I agree wholeheartedly that he should NOT receive custody of his child for many reasons; so I pray that whatever is done is done respectfully and in the best interest of this young man’s safety and well-being because at the end of the day, the focus needs to be on what will be for him and not end up being a fight and mud-slinging contest in the media between his grandparents and his father.

Self-Care Sunday: Nourishing Your Creativity

Most of us are in the world of creative entrepreneurship. We all have our own jobs and professional endeavors; however, we also have separate creative projects, businesses or projects that we are building upon in hopes of one day that being our sole means of income or separate and second business business venture.

Most of us spend countless hours at our 9-5, just to turn around and burn our midnight oils with our “5-9” dreams as well. If you’re going through the same things i go through, sometimes we can get a little burnt out, or the fumes tend to run low on the creative scale, when you haven’t had the time to really sit down and take quality time to put your best effort towards your creative goals.

One of the ways that you can stay on top of your self care is nourishing your creativity. Whether it is taking up a new hobby or revitalizing a new one, getting back into your creative nature is a good way to spark your creativity, and put yourself back into positive spirits.

On a personal note, I find myself in a more positive spirit, when I am at my creative peak. When I can put in time writing and creating good content for my blog or my writing projects, I find myself in my best moods. When my creaitvity is blocked, I find that those are the times when I feel I am not in my best of moods and I am struggling with finding my happiness. It definitely shows in my work and my attitude.

Some of the ways I try to nourish my creative juices are by getting good and sound sleep, meditating, exercising, journaling and even creating some reflective down time to sit with my thoughts so that I can play around with different ideas that I’ve had in the past. I find that taking the time for these things help to allow my creativity to flourish and I can be at my best!

What are some of the ways you allow yourself to be your best crestively?