‘Tis Better to Give than Receive

Am I a giver or a taker?

I am definitely more of a giver than a taker. In most instances, I give entirely too much, rather than taking what I deserve.

I think I’m most cases, we tend to find ourselves giving more than taking. We don’t want to appear selfish, so we give and give and give; without asking for anything in return, or taking anything when offered to us. When we are due a reward or compensation for our giving or good deeds, we decline them or say they are unnecessary because that’s just who we are; we do things out of the kindness of our heart, and never really for any type of compensation or value.

I think the theory behind this, is when you’re giving your time and effort to something for good, you don’t want it to seem like you always want something out of it. You want people to know that you genuinely care, and you don’t always need the validation of taking something from someone as a result of giving your time and attention to a specific person or thing.

I know that I look at this as a gift and a curse. Being a giver of your generosity is definitely a gift,m; however, giving too much can also be a curse. You have to be careful not to give too much, or else you may begin to be taken advantage of. Sometimes, you also have to take the rewards and acknowledgement you deserve when it is offered, because in certain instances it is very hard to come by.


Are you Courageous Enough to Live Freely?

Oftentimes, we have these amazing goals and visions for ourselves. We have vision boards, detail-oriented plans and explanations on how to make these goals a reality and we have the ability and the opportunity to make these things happen. The question is; do you have the courage to step out and live freely in those goals?

I know I live in two different mindsets; I have a creative mindset who has very specific entrepreneurial goals for myself. I also have a realist mindset who knows the reality of those goals and what o have to do right now, in an effort to maintain my current lifestyle and situation today until I can get to a point where I can devote full-time to those entrepreneurial goals. Many people may be in this place, and I wrote about it before; being stuck in your 9-5 while being a creative person. The steps we often forget, are the steps you can take in the interim of getting to those overall goals you have for yourself. Would I love to quit my job today and devote my time to writing, editing and blogging and developing my publishing company? YES! Do I have the ability to do that right now? Not exactly. But, can I do things in between that time to put myself further ahead than I am today? DEFINITELY!

I ask myself this constantly, do I have enough courage to step out and live freely in the goals I have for myself? Am I doing everything I can to get to that next step, have I crossed everything off my to-do list for this phase of my life, so I’ll be ready when the next phase comes? Sometimes the answer is yes, and sometimes it’s no.

What you have to remember is to be courageous enough to either live freely and fully in your goals, or live freely and fully in doing what it takes to get to your goals. Sometimes that means working a job that’s not what you envisioned for yourself, but sometimes all roads are temporary and all roads lead to reach you something.

Remember to be courageous and confident in your goals; be intentional and live freely in every phase in life, because everything you do is a stepping stone to the next phase of your life; and it can either help you, or hinder you.

Do what helps you smash your goals!

…I Will Continue to Bloom

A journal prompt led me to write this post today, because my feelings were somewhat in line with it as well.

There are many days when I feel like all hope is lost in my quest to maintain my optimism. I generally try to maintain a level of positivity about my day; especially with the type of work that I do. It’s very easy to have a traumatizing or emotionally draining day. Despite that, I still try hard to go into the day with an overall positive mindset and the goal to have a good day no matter what.

Lately, I’ve been tested beyond belief and there are more days than others that I feel I’ve been barely passing that test. It seems that no matter how hard I try to give it my all, I wither more and more. On days where there appears to be nothing much left of my spirit, they seem to find a way to keep beating me down. Surprisingly, I’ve found a way to keep pushing, and keeping blooming despite how withered I might be.

No matter what goes on in a day, I try to maintain being the face of optimism. Without it, there is not much left. I try hard everyday for the trials of life not to take that away from me; and I’m a testament to the fact that it is in no way easy.

There’s never an easy way to look negativity in the face and say that you will overcome it, but many of us do every single day. For that, I applaud you. I applaud us; all of us who choose optimism everyday. For all of us who choose to continue to bloom in an environment that sometimes is designed to make us wither and fade away; we are stronger than those who are working against us.

Be Mindful of the Energy you Put Into How Others Think of You

Do I care about what others are thinking about me?

The short answer is this: NO.

When I was younger, I was very self-conscious and was very concerned with how others perceived me and what people thought of me.  I have always tried to be a good person and a good friend to everyone I come in contact with, and took it very seriously if someone did not think well of me.

Now that I am older, I have realized that in life, you can put your best foot forward for people, and they will still find a reason to see the wrong in what you do; or only see the negative things that you have done.  They will not praise you for the good things you have accomplished or remember you for the good person that you are.  What I have learned is that you cannot put all of your energy into trying to force people to think highly of you, because sometimes people will not do so.  Therefore, I do not care what people think of me, as long as I know in my heart that I have done right by them and shown them the utmost respect.

You should not care what other people think of you, especially if you are treating people with respect and dignity that they deserve.  People will always have their specific opinions about you, no matter how you treat them.  The only obligations you have in life is to treat people the way you would want to be treated in life and hope to receive the same in return.

Self-Care Sunday Highlight: Essential Oils

This week, I want to highlight the use of essential oils in our self-care routine!

I’ve recently gotten into utilizing essential oils as a part of my self-care routine and it’s truly been an awesome experience.

Essential oils are used in some of the most natural ways to combat stress, manage pain, and improve your overall wellness. The most common uses for essential oils are for aromatherapy, massages, diffusing, or even in a soothing bath. Personally, I’ve used lavender and peppermint to help with headaches and stress, and it has helped tremendously with decreasing the intensity!

Essential oils have so many benefits for our minds and bodies that we can utilize even on a daily basis within minutes, and we don’t even have to leave the house! Some of the top essential oils that people use are as follows:

  • Lavender
  • Peppermint
  • Ylang ylang
  • Bergamot
  • Rosemary
  • Frankincense
  • Eucalyptus

These are just a few oils that I’ve either tried or are on my wish list to try in the near future.

This week, research an essential oil to try based on a need you have and see if you get any benefits from them. You might find that essential oils are the key to an overall positive state of being for you!

Learning to Forgive and Forget

Do I easily forgive or hold a grudge?

I’ll be honest; depending on what it was that made me upset in the first place, I have the tendency to hold a grudge sometimes. I am definitely one who will forgive but never forget, and I’m not proud of it sometimes.

I know that forgiveness is about letting things go and moving on. You have to be able to let go of what hurt you in order to move on to the next; however, there are times when even the most forgiving person can find that difficult. There have been things that have happened to me that have been hard to let go of; and I have held a bit of a grudge about them. One thing I’ve had to learn was that in order to move on and grow and learn from those experiences is to learn forgiveness.

Some of the strongest people I know have learned the aspect of forgiveness and learned that you can forgive but not forget; and still manage to move on with life in a positive way without having that one experience taint your relationship with a person.