Live Every Moment as if it Were Your Last

If I only had 6 months to live, how would I spend my time?

I'm not going to lie, I actually skipped this question because it was not really something I wanted to write about; but I told myself that I wouldn't skip any questions no matter how difficult they may be or may make me feel.

This is definitely something I don't think about often, and with me being so young it is not a question I would particularly like to dwell on at all; however, it does make you wonder about the concept of life in general.

Although I cannot sit here and pinpoint exactly how much time God will grant me to be on this Earth, I know that I, just like everyone else, only have a specific amount of time.  In that time, we are given the opportunity to make the most of our lives.  We are awarded the chance to live out our absolute best life possible.  With that I will say I would spend my time laughing with family.  I wouldn't spend my time filled with worry, or self-doubt, or angst about trivial things.  I would want to travel, see the world, laugh endlessly with my loved ones and make every moment be better than the last.

Truth be told, that's how we all should live life anyway, right?


Self-Care Sunday Highlight: Hydration, Hydration, Hydration

I'm going to keep it simple this week and take a page out of one of my favorite podcast's books, The Friend Zone

For the wellness segment this week, Fran talked about how she began drinking 3 liters of water and raved about all the positive benefits just one extra liter of water gave her daily, since she was already drinking two liters a day.

This motivated me to highlight hydrating as a self-care topic for this week, because people be sleepin' on water, tho'. Lol.

For about as long as I can remember, I have been on a "gallon-a-day" kick; meaning yes, I drink at least 100-128 oz of water a day.  I feel like anything less now my body is not at it's best.  I knew that part of me becoming a healthier me began with increasing my water intake, so I took that and told myself that I would start drinking more water. There are certain formulas out there that tell you exactly how much you should drink based on your weight and body type, but so far based on how much I work out and everything, a gallon has pretty much kept me well hydrated throughout the day.

I also wanted to highlight a few of the benefits water has, because although sometimes you cannot see it, water does amazing things to your body if you pay close attention:

  • Clears up your skin

  • Cleanses your body of nasty toxins

  • Relieves fatigue and gives you an energy boost

  • Boosts your immune system

  • Relieves headache tension

Since the beginning of me drinking water, I've seen a great increase in all these things, and when I'm not getting enough water, I can tell. I feel tired, my skin looks washed out, and overall I feel very dehydrated.

Sometimes water is not my favorite thing to drink, but I know my body cannot live without it, so I make sure I keep my gallon jug with me, and anytime I need a thirst quencher, I tip it back and chug-a-lug!

So, this week, monitor your water intake. If you know you don't get enough water or don't think you're getting enough water, try to increase how much water you drink in a day and see how it changes your overall feeling after about a week.

#50Days50Questions: Big Money Dreams

If I had a million dollars, how would I spend it?

With that much money, I have no clue. Lol.

I know I would obviously pay off unnecessary debt, save money for my daughter's future, buy a nicer car and a really nice house.

Other than that, I have no earthly idea what I would really do with all that money.


“Today I Affirm”: 7 Daily Affirmations

I completed a challenge recently over the past seven days that I found on alex_elle's Instagram page.  The challenge was to create one affirmation per day using three words given on each day.  The challenge began on 7/17 and ended on 7/24. I successfully completed the challenge and after creating my final affirmation I felt truly empowered by what I was able to accomplish.  I wanted to share with you all the 7 affirmations I created over the last week, and how they have resonated with me in this particular point in my life.  Each one is significant, as it identifies with something that I was dealing with in that specific day, and somehow, I was able to abide by my affirmation and see it all the way through to the end.

As I reflect over the past seven days and go back through the affirmations I created for myself, I have to give myself credit for finding the right words to put together despite the week I had.  It was not one of my best weeks, and I had to admit that I found it to be a challenge taking on the task of creating positive affirmations during a week where I found myself not finding many things going positively at all.  Looking back, I can see the strength in my words, and can feel the resiliency in what I typed out as I dug deep within myself to find whatever was left within my spirit to hold on to some level of positivity.

Below is a list by date of my seven daily affirmations:

"Today I affirm…"

7/17: that I will allow love to prevail in all things, despite the trials I may face throughout the day.

7/18: that what hurts me will not discourage my healing or prevent me from moving forward with my goals.

7/19: that joy will be abundant far beyond the circumstance of life.

7/20: that a failure along the way will not stop me from the ability to enjoy my journey.

7/21: that I will adopt the courage and the patience to hit "restart" if life begins to overwhelm me.

7/22: that my life will not be of any others to own and I will find truth in understanding God's plan for my life.

7/23: that I will not look at the shift in my life as difficult. I will embrace the change, I will become better, stronger and wiser for it; because I know it will all be beneficial for my well-being.

7/24: I will destroy negative thoughts. I will be intentional in my positive thinking and understand that the opportunities put in front of me are mine to manipulate to benefit me!

Self-Care Sunday Highlight: Managing the Stress Levels

Here’s something that I know we all can agree we’ve dealt with at least on a daily basis in one way or another: STRESS. I honestly couldn’t have written this post at a more critical time in my life, because my stress levels have been higher than usual lately.  Whether it be from everyday life circumstances, job-related stress, personal family issues, friends, significant others, etc.; stress is all around and it creeps its way into the things we tend to hold near and dear to us.

The idea behind stress is making sure that you are not allowing it to overwhelm you and effect your mind, body and spirit.  Putting measures in place to manage your stress will allow you to get a handle on it and not allow stress to run your life, because it has the ability to effect us mentally, emotionally and even physically.

Here are a few ways I looked up (and even some I use myself) that are beneficial to managing your stress in a positive way:

  • Spending time with people who make you happy and spread positive vibes
  • Journaling
  • Having a healthy cry
  • Counseling/ speaking with someone
  • Fitness/Maintaining a healthy lifestyle
  • *my best friend put me on this ;)* Putting a deadline on stress (ex: only giving the issue “x” amount of minutes, hours, days before you no longer let it take up any amount of your time)
  • Meditating

These are just a few things you can do to keep your stress level down when you feel it creeping up on you.  A lot of times, we live and work in high-stress situations daily, and the idea of getting stressed out has become second nature, but it doesn’t have to! By adapting a small 5-10 minute routine that you can do even when you notice things are beginning to feel overwhelming can help manage the level of stress you put on yourself.

This week, try adapting one or two of these suggestions, or let me know a few of your techniques that you use to manage your stress.  Let’s all work together and help each other keep stay mentally and emotionally healthy!

#50Days50Questions: Happy is….

What and who makes me happy?

My daughter’s laughter.  My husband’s unconditional love and support.  My mother’s tough love.  My sister’s strength and faith.  My grandmother’s presence.  My nephews resilience.  My best friend’s support.

My endless collection of books.  My favorite set of G2 pens.  My notebook.  My USB flash drives (even though my best friend says I need an external hard drive LMAO).  My meditation balls.  My oil diffuser.  The 20 minutes of meditation I take in the morning.  Working out in the morning.

Eating healthy.  Coffee.  Wine.  Whiskey.  Mimosas on Saturdays and Sundays.

Headphone blasting.  Migos.  SZA.  2 Chainz.  Drake.  Cardi B.  Beyonce.  Jay-Z.  The Friend Zone.  The Read.  Gettin’ Grown.  #BlackTwitter.  Snapchat.  Instagram.  Love & Hip Hop.  Insecure.  #TGIT.  Basketball.  Football.  SVU.  Blackish. Empire.

Love. Laugher. Smiling. Positive vibes.  Energy.  Growth.  Success.  Wealth.  Prosperity.  Faith.


These are a few of my favorite things…