How to Push Past Your Comfort Zone

So far this year, there has been a lot of discomfort in my transition into 30.  There was going to be a lot of things I told myself I would do that I normally wouldn’t have ever done.   One of the main reasons I chose to do this cruel thing to myself was because as one gets older, sometimes you have to change.  Sometimes you have to spread yourself a little bit in order to know what you’re capable of growing to become.

Lately, I’ve committed to putting myself in the position to intentionally making myself do things that make me uncomfortable.  I am doing little things that the ‘old Whit’ would have NEVER dreamed of doing and to my surprise, I am slowly beginning to see that I enjoy it more and more.  Even though some of the things may not even get me out of the house, I feel that even in this millennial/digital/social media stage in life, I’m still putting myself out there in ways that I never would have a year or two ago.  As a person who is generally an introvert by nature, it is extremely difficult for me to be as outgoing as I strive to be.  I still become very shy when opportunities present themselves for me to vocal about certain things; however, with everyday that passes, I try to affirm that I can push myself to become more outgoing and outspoken as I transition into a new chapter of my life.

For me, I feel a shift of greater things happening as I approach my thirties and in order for me to be prepared for it, I believe that some of the preparation is occurring now.  I feel that certain tests are being put in my path, as a way to say “Yo, I need you to get past this, because when _____ comes into your life, you’re going to need to be ready for it.” Now, if you ask am I passing or failing these tests, I may possibly just be getting by, LOL; but I think there are lessons learned in all things.  I believe that any and every experience I’ve gone through has taught me even the smallest thing about myself, and that is what is most important.  The key is to now take those things I’m learning and apply them to becoming a better me for the future.

Between me now finally accomplishing my goal of publishing my first book, on track to publishing more, and blogging consistently and expanding that; my mind has now opened up to so many other opportunities and possibilities to how I want to expand what I am currently doing and how to make my future in writing even brighter than I ever dreamed.  From only privately  journaling two years ago, to now blogging on two sites and having a published novel is a major move for me and I feel I can only go up from here.  I can only speak on three key ways I was able to make it happen:

Confidence

Consistency

Self-Love

So, for anyone who is struggling to step out of their comfort zone I say this; no one is stopping you but you.  You have to find what will help you to push past your comfort zone and get you to where you want to be in life.  Without those three things, I wouldn’t be where I am currently, and I definitely wouldn’t have the courage to continue to dream as big as I am dreaming right now!

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Self-Care Sunday Highlight: Take a Deep Breath! 

When’s the last time you took a moment, paused what you were doing and took a deep breath? 

Think about it…been a minute, huh? Exactly! 

We all know life gets hectic and we don’t really take the time to just sit around and take a couple deep breaths and relax.  Well, today is the day you practice a technique that literally takes less than 2 minutes! 

When you feel yourself becoming overwhelmed or getting to a point where your stress level is going into overdrive, stop what you’re doing and take a quick break and follow these steps: 

  • Sit still with your hands on your lap and your feet flat on the ground
  • Take a deep breath in through your nose for 5 seconds.
  • Hold your breath for 4 seconds.
  • Exhale for 8 seconds.
  • Repeat about five times. 

Completing this small deep breathing technique helps me calm my nerves when I’m upset or stressed out so that I don’t completely freak out in the middle of my day. 

Try utilizing a deep breathing technique when you need to take care of yourself this week and see if it helps diffuse those overly stressful moments that we all have sometimes!! 

#50Days50Questions: Where Do You See Yourself…? 

Where/how would I like to see myself in a year? 10 years?

In a year, I’d like to believe that I could be progressing towards a better overall level of happiness.

But to be honest, I have no idea; and that might be kind of scary for some, but honestly this is one my of least favorite questions to answer.  I never know what or how I see myself in the future.

I’ve been trying to answer this question for about three days now, and I have no idea where I will be in a year, five years or ten years.  What I do hope and pray is I will be better, wiser, stronger, and better than I am in this year.  Right now, that’s all I can ask for.

The things I am doing today are shaping me to become a better person 365 days later.  That’s truly all I can ask for at this point.

This is about all I have for this question…I’ll try to do better with the next one, lol.

Self-Care Sunday Highlight: Removing Toxic People from Your Life 

When you feel like there is an abundance of negativity weighing you down, sometimes you have to look to the people around you and determine if they are bringing toxic vibes to your life.  If you find that they are, removing them is always the best option.  Sometimes, this may include removing people closest to you (i.e. family and friends), but at times, making that tough decisions to remove those people who are causing negative energy to be present in your life is the best way to move towards more positive self-care and preservation of your sanity.

Removing toxic people from your life can be a big refresher when those people are the primary cause of stress, negativity and an improper imbalance in our personal lives.

This week, if you’re feeling like there are people in your life who are causing some unneeded stress and toxic vibes in your life, do a much needed re-evaluation of the need and value of them in your life and decide if letting them go is the best option to improving your life and mood altogether.

#50Days50Questions: Use What Ya Got! 

What are my talents? Am I utilizing them? How can I use them more?

Hmmm…..my talents.  I guess if we’re counting; I have two. 

Obviously, I’d like to think one of my talents is writing (lol).  I also enjoy singing, but it’s definitely something I keep under wraps.  I’m one of those people you will hear say “I only sing for the Lord and in the shower” which is kind of true, LOL.  I usually sing in church, and I sing in the car and in the shower.  So, honestly, if you ever want to hear me sing those three places might be the places to catch me.  


As for if I’m utilizing that talent, I guess you could say no.  I’m not necessarily using it for any type of personal or professional gain, and I don’t anticipate doing so.  I enjoy singing for the sheer joy of singing.  It’s a talent I have, but it’s merely there just for the fact that I love to do it.  I don’t really want to gain anything from it except to put a smile on someone’s face if I can :). 

For writing, I believe that it is my number one talent.  I used to be very modest about it and say “oh I’m an ok writer” or “I’m not a big deal”.  One thing I told myself I would start doing is being very arrogant about myself; because if I don’t boost up my own head, who will?  So instead, I will say I am THE best writer I know 🙂 (ok, maybe not THE best, but I’d like to think I’m pretty good).


The next question is am I utilizing my talent; the answer to that is yes, I am now.  Before, I was very guarded in who and how I exposed my writing.  Now, I’ve become more public with it.  I’ve tried to put myself out there and be more fearless with sharing my gift with the world.  I figure, God blessed me with this ability; why not share it with people?  So that’s what I’m doing now.  

Overall, I’m not saying I’m loaded with all these talents; but I have some pretty cool ones.  If I keep utilizing them regularly, maybe they will turn into something successful.  Until then, they are just two things I thoroughly enjoy doing in my free time ☺️. 

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#50Days50Questions: The Hard Times That Make you Stronger

What was the hardest time of my life? How has that affected me?

Wow…

I’ve been trying for two days to answer this question; it’s really made me think.  I would have to say the hardest time of my life was when my grandfather passed away, because it was the first time I had experienced loss that immediate in my family and old enough to understand.

My grandfather, who I wrote a dedication to last year on the 10-year anniversary of his passing, was the greatest and sweetest man I had ever known.  He was living proof that good guys existed, and he was the model in which I wanted my husband to be.  I remember all the good things about him; especially the things that make me smile and laugh, because his laughter is one thing that brings me the greatest joy.  He laughed with so much passion for life.

When he got sick, at first, you could tell it wasn’t getting him down.  He tried his best to continue living life the best way he could.  When he got sicker, you could tell that it was really taking a toll.

The year he passed was the same year i started college.  I battled with a lot of emotions surrounding his death; one being regret.  There were so many opportunities I felt I missed out on to visit with him, because I always thought I’d have time, or there would always be a next time.

His passing taught me a very valuable lesson about cherishing and valuing the time you have with people.  You don’t know where life will take you or what will happen; so if you want to do something, do it.  Don’t wait; don’t tell yourself you will have time if you feel like you may not.  The level of regret is sometimes too uncomfortable to bear

Self-Care Sunday Highlight: Spa Day 

Nothing beats a stressful, hard fought week like a day at the spa, or a day at home creating your own at-home DIY spa day!

I’ll admit, I had my first spa day for my birthday last year; but it’s always been something I’ve wanted (more like needed) to put into a monthly schedule for myself; and even when I can’t actually go to a spa, I try to recreate what I want and need at home!  I specifically enjoy doing body scrubs and face masks to keep my skin clear, soft and moisturized!

I believe having a spa day not only eases your stress of everyday life and work, but also keeps your body healthy as well.  You’d be surprised at how many knots and kinks get into your body and you have to learn to now stretch them out with a massage, how much healthier and clear your skin looks after a facial, or the refreshing feeling of a pedicure.

While you may not have the means to accomplish all these things all the time, some of our favorite spa treatments are things you can try right in your own homes! Anything from facials to foot treatments can be done right at home on a Sunday afternoon!

Check out these links for ideas on how to achieve your best spa treatment at home!