Keep your soul beautiful today, loves! 🙂
The age-old quote says “laughter is good for the soul”, and I couldn’t agree more.
Ask yourself, when is the last time you laughed? When is the last time something made you giggle uncontrollably. Also, ask yourself how you felt after you had a good, hearty laugh.
Whenever I laugh, it’s like medicine to numb the pain. I’m a person who is always looking for a silver lining with my friends and family. I strive to be optimistic all the time, and I try to find the humor in things. Sometimes, a silly situation is all it takes to turn a mood around. It reminds you that life isn’t too bad that you can’t smile. It also helps to have friends in your life who know how to make you smile, even when they don’t realize it.
This week, laugh. Laugh uncontrollably. Laugh until it makes you cry. Find a funny picture, reminisce on a memory, do a funky dance or sing a weird song. Talk to someone who you know will bring you some positive energy and endless moments to smile about. Do something that you know will make you laugh enough to remind you that life isn’t as bad as we make it seem sometimes.
For the first time in possibly ever (with the exception of the 5 days I took out of the country, I took an entire week and a half off from my job and my adulting responsibilities (insert shock and *gasp*). I didn’t have any life-threatening reason why I did it (unless you count my slowly deteriorating sanity), but I felt like it was critical and needed at the time.
Everyone deserves second chances and new opportunities to make things better. I’ve been awarded more second chances in life than I can count; and definitely more than I probably deserved. As I reflect on the things that I have been through, I can’t help but be grateful for the second chances I have had or have given, because they’ve been beneficial.
When I was younger, I thought that my father and I would have one of the greatest relationships in the world. We enjoy the same things (and still do I’m sure), and in some ways are pretty similar in action and personality. I never thought the relationship I have, would be the one that would manifest into my adult life. I thought it would have been better, but situations and circumstances occurred; and as a result, my father and I did not have the best relationship growing up.
I used to be ashamed to say that I didn’t have a decent relationship with my father. There have been years of unspoken words and lost time between us; and it was hard to admit at first. As I’ve grown, I’ve realized that things between us are not the best, but they are a lot better than they have been.
There was a level of pain that came with the lack of connection with my father. It hurt to not be able to have that bond with my father, but I was stubborn as well (a trait I inherited from my mother, lol). I was playing this “I’m the child, and he should come to me” role; and truthfully, I feel in some ways that ship has sailed. Yes, there were things that my father did to me or made me feel that he should probably make the first move in rectifying, but as far as us communicating on a better spectrum, I am old enough to pick up my phone and talk to my dad if I choose. I don’t need my mother to encourage me, nor do I need him to make the first move. I own a phone, I am grown, I know how to talk; if I want to make the first move, there is nothing wrong with that.
When I had my daughter, I saw an opportunity for a second chance for both of us to get it right. It gave us a starting point for something to talk about. I started by telling him how she was doing and upgraded to sending pictures whenever he asked about her and us.
This week, for the first time, he is spending an entire week with her where he lives. I was nervous at first; moreso for Kynnedy being in a place she’s never been before. After stressing about it for weeks, I decided to start talking about it with her and she became very excited about seeing him. I told my dad all he would need to know about a week with Kynnedy, and soon enough, everyone was excited about it.
It had taken me a long time to get to this point; letting my dad keep Kynnedy, but I can’t recall having any apprehension to doing it. I always wondered if he wanted to keep my daughter, because he’s had my nephew several times. I didn’t know if I was supposed to ask first, or if he was going to tell me when he wanted to see her. After talking to my sister, I decided to just sit down and pick a weekend for it to happen.
I didn’t want to rob my father of the opportunity to be in his granddaughter’s life. I didn’t want my issues (whatever they may be) to hinder the opportunity for her to find and develop her own relationship with her grandpa, because my mother never did that to me. I want my dad and Kynnedy to have the best relationship possible. I want her to be able to spend as much time as she can with him, no matter how long it is. She has so many sets of grandparents, and she wants to see them all. I couldn’t exclude my father from that, just because of things that happened between us that had nothing to do with Kynnedy.
So here’s to second chances at better relationships; and new opportunities for added memories.
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Like the great former First Lady (who will always be THE First Lady in my life). I am living in the truth that I will always keep my goals on the forefront of my mind, and use every minute of the day to get closer and closer to them. 🙂
This week’s highlight for self-care is one of my personal favorites: music.
Music is one of the most therapeutic things I utilize in my day-to-day life. I can pretty much listen to any type of music, as long as it gives me good feeling vibes. I have always loved music and the benefits it has on uplifting me to another place. I have different playlists, and when I’m feeling a certain way, or looking to put myself in a certain mood, I lean on that specific playlist and it always helps me feel better.
Music is known to bring about the most powerful emotions and feelings when you listen to it. I listened to a podcast once, where they described that the most pivotal moments in songs could release dopamine into the system.
Here are some of the ways that music can positively change your life:
- Music is a method of therapy for depression
- Music helps to reduce anxiety and calm you down
- Music can help improve your motivation and concentration
- Music is an overall mood stimulant.
- Music boosts performance in activities (working, running, exercising, etc.)
This week, I challenge you to put together a playlist of your favorite songs; some of the songs that put you on cloud 9 and bring happiness to your day. Use that playlist when you’re feeling down or not your usual self, and see if it helps bring you to a better place!!
Before I call it a night, for International Women’s Day, I want to personally shoutout all the hard-working, dedicated, beautiful, talented, strong, resilient, positive, encouraging, magical women that I know and love dearly.
In honor of this day, I’m sure some of us either protested or was unable to protest (I for one had to go to work to get some things done and I couldn’t forego all my responsibilities today, lol); however, no matter what, I hope a fellow woman or a man told you how much you’re appreciated today. I hope you woke up this morning with a newfound sense of pride for yourself and the things you accomplish. I hope you realized that today is all about us; we matter, and we make a difference in this world no matter who does or does not agree or choose to admit that to themselves.
Being a woman is no easy feat, especially in 2017. We have suffered, we have been beat down, abused, looked over, minimalized and everything in between; however, despite the trials we continue to rise to the occasions and smash the goals put in front of us. We never waver in the face of opposition. We are woman, hear us roar.
I’m proud to be a woman. I’m proud to be a working mother, a wife, a sister, a friend, a creator, and a vital piece of society. I applaud women everywhere and from all walks of life, because we all have a pretty unique story to tell. We all have struggled, and we all have triumphed. For that, we deserve some recognition.
To put it plain and simple, we lit.
– Whit C.