Is Your Pen Out of Ink Yet?

So far, we have managed  to survive 11 days of a the Trump presidency, and I’m trying not to lose my mind.  I’m really shocked that his isn’t out of ink by now, with all the nonsense he has put his signature on; yea I said it, nonsense.  It has been more of a blatant show of a lack of respect or care for the potential lives that are put in the balance at the hands of these executive orders.  I’ve been trying to follow most of what has been going down in the White House, while also trying to limit my exposure to it (as a method of self-care).  Most of the time it ends in me shaking my head and praying that we continue to work through this, y’all.  I’m wondering if Kendrick was telling the truth, are we gon’ be alright?

From reigniting the fuel to constructing the Dakota  Access Pipeline, abilities to utilize “extreme vetting measures” (and no one can articulate that) for people entering into the country, hiring freezes…S.M.H!  I can’t keep it all straight and quite frankly it’s getting irritating hearing about all the crap he’s been doing that makes absolutely no sense.  Unfortunately, we have 3 years, 11 months and 28 more days left of the tomfoolery that is a Trump Administration.

And to that small population of people who are now regretting your vote for Donald Trump; I applaud your bravery for speaking out about how you feel and respect your honesty.  I feel like the people in this group didn’t read the fine print on a contract, and you always have to read the fine print.  It’ll get you every time.

Alright, this is all I wanted to say.  I’m going back under my “I don’t like politics” blanket and try to ride this presidency out.

Pray for me and I’ll pray for you.

-Whit C.

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Ramblings.

Well, this week’s essay definitely  won’t be as good as others.  It won’t be my best work.  It will be short, and it probably won’t make a lick of sense; which is why I decided to name it “Ramblings”.  With everything going on, I didn’t really have time to separate my thoughts and choose a specific topic to write about, so I’ll just throw all my thoughts into one post.  Here goes nothing….

Today is the last day of the month.  The last day of the first month of 2017, and my has it been a rough month.  I have gone through quite a few things with my family and personally (that I won’t go into full disclosure respectfully), and it has taken a toll on me in several different forms.  I have suffered a lot of things emotionally in the first month of 2017 (and it’s ONLY the first month of 2017); things that I would have never imagined feeling in my lifetime.  With all that being said, I made it to the end of the month in one piece, and luckily with my sanity halfway intact.  It wasn’t easy, but thank God, I’m here.

I haven’t been in the gym consistently in over a month, and that really sucks. Especially because I love the gym. It’s become a huge part of my life now, so when I felt myself slipping away from it, I felt like I was losing a piece of myself :-(. There was a point where all of my eating was at the hands of fast food, I was sitting on the couch being lazy, nothing was getting done!  I just recently told myself that I had to get it together, that I was losing myself in all the drama going on in my life, and pushing the things that actually help me, to the back burner!  So I started my routine back.  It’s been very hard waking up at 5am again, trying to muster up enough energy to make it through a 90 minute workout. I’m also trying to find a routine for myself and a muscle group rotation that’s new and fun and I think I found one! I have a goal for my 30th birthday I will be down to around 170, so I have a pretty long way to go, but I don’t plan on quitting anytime soon.

I also discovered something horrible about myself.   I am a stress-induced/emotional eater.  When my anxiety gets too high, or I become overly stressed out about certain things, all I want is comfort (or what feels like comfort) food and Pepsi.  I tend to make excuses for it, when all it really is, is emotional eating.  I never thought I was an emotional eater until some recent events in my life led to an overwhelming amount of stress and roller-coaster type emotions.  As a result of that, I either wanted to eat crap or not eat at all.  I also fell into a nasty habit that I hadn’t been in in a long time; drinking more than one soda a day.  When I was younger I used to drink at least 3 Pepsi’s a day.  Nowadays, I have cut back tremendously to the point where I can only really handle 1 can maybe every couple days.  Once again, stress and overwhelming emotions were rearing their ugly head at me, and I fell off the wagon (I tend to think of myself as a recovering Pepsi addict, lol).  This week, I started back on my gallon-a-day water regimen and trying to cut caffeine out of my diet.  In case anyone was wondering, it’s not fun and I have a headache that won’t go away; but I am going to slowly but surely ween myself  back off of this caffeine (hey! That rhymed, lol).

Overall,  I’m getting better.  I feel like I have to wash out January 2017 and start my year off at February.  January just had a lot of things going on; however, with every trial in my or my family’s life, I learn something new.  Over the last couple months, I learned a few cool and not so cool things:

  • True friendship is something rare and genuine.  Please treat it with the respect it deserves.
  • People who are most persistent, care the most.
  • Find someone to talk to when you’re in pain.  Communication is the major breakdown of relationships.
  • Hold fast to faith and prayer.
  • Sometimes, people will not have your best interest at heart, and they will not understand your pain and suffering.

Like I said, this was random;  unplanned and not put together nicely.  It’s just a reflection of my thoughts and how I’ve been feeling.  Sometimes, you just need to take some time to free write.  This is it.

-Whit C.

A Writer’s Responsibility

Strong words. Definitely needed.

The PBS Blog

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Writers must understand what their responsibility is as a voice. As a shofar to the world. Low self-worth, ignorance, and low self-esteem can be smelled from miles away. The stench of give up is not something that is difficult to discern. If you dare to write, then dare also to own it. Your words, your message, and your purpose is something that must not be shared timidly. It’s not about arrogance, for arrogance will surely destroy you. What it is about is writing with authority and making yourself responsible for every word, every syllable, and every piece of heart contextualized. Humility is understanding who guides you every day and who came before you. It is not thinking less of yourself. Every blog post, every email, and every book demand from you a responsibility. You are responsible for being professional, exact, kind, and factual despite how inappropriate others may be. You…

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They Were for the People

It’s been six days since the inauguration, and the ultimate farewell to what I would say was the best First Family to hold position in the White House.  I never thought I’d care so much that a particular president was leaving office, because I was never ALL THAT political.  I will be the first to tell you that I don’t profess to be the most knowledgeable or forthcoming of conversations in the political realm; my opinion is that it is just sticky territory for me.  I knew of the major things happening in the world that would effect me and my life, but never took the time out to really analyze politics.

The day the inauguration took place, I did not choose to watch television.  I stayed away from live feeds, twitter threads, IG pictures and all, because I do not support what went down in America that day.  That day, while a man who I feel is the most unqualified and inconsiderate person to hold this title, I was filled with solemn emotion at the fact that a family that I held to the highest regard was leaving the White House.  A family I grew to love for more than what they did for people; I loved them because they were human beings, and carried themselves as such.  You actually saw them do things that everyday people were doing.  They were the People’s family, and even on your worst day, you couldn’t help but love them.  Barack and Michelle are hands down the most adorable couple in this world.  They were the nicest and kindest family you could ever see on television or in the media, and had no scandal or slanderous activity during their journey.

Many people believe that most of the African American population voted for Barack Obama because he was Black; and while that may have been a reason for some, I believe it wasn’t the main reason for all.  I believe that Barack set out to be a man of the people and he truly was. He was able to touch lives and hearts of many people in this world; and able to identify with some of the things that he wanted to make happen for America.

Many people have different things to say about this particular First Family.  I’m sure some wanted there to be some type of drama, some unspoken issues in Barack and Michelle’s relationship, some juvenile acts happening with Sasha and Malia; pretty much anything that would taint the image of their family.  People tried hard, and searched high and low for something that would make this family seem far from perfection.  What I found through he 8 years that this family occupied the White House, is that there was barely a bad word that could be spoken about them, and more people loved them than hated them.

I hate to say good-bye, but the world knows that their time has come to pass the torch.  To be a witness to history, and see the first African-American family in the White House brought me an unspeakable amount of joy.  Not many can say that they were ever able to see this coming, and although it is an end to an era, it was one of the greatest era’s I have been able to witness with my own two eyes.

I know we will see the Obama family around, but I still miss them being our First Family. 🙂

-Whit C. 

Social Media Addicts Anonymous

Hello,

My name is Whitney and I’m always connected to my social media pages.

*insert warm and inviting “Hi Whitney!” from the congregation of fellow addicts*

Welcome to the “Social Media Addicts Anonymous” group, where we will discussing this nasty habit that some of us can’t or won’t seem to break, lol.

Let’s start with a show of hands, and try to be honest with yourself.  How many times have you looked at your social media accounts today?  How many of us roll over in the morning, hit the alarm and immediately check out what happened overnight in the Internet world (when truthfully, everyone you follow should have been sleep anyway *rolls eyes*)?  I hate to admit it, but I have to confess that I have an issue with social media.  I spend entirely too much time trying to figure out who is telling all their drama on Facebook (as I sit back eating my popcorn and sipping an enormous mug of tea), who posted what on Instagram, and what the trending hashtags are on Twitter.

This is definitely something I am guilty of, and as much as I would like to say that this is completely self-inflicted behavior, there are other times when I feel that society has burdened us with the idea that all communication, networking, and engagement amongst other human beings has to be through some form of technology or social media.  We have been saddled with the crutch of keeping our phones in our hands, constantly swiping downward to refresh that new page and see what else is going down in the world.  It is basically the new wave that everyone is riding, and as fast as the world moves; I don’t blame myself for being addicted.

Social media is pretty much the fastest and most efficient way to get information out to others in a matter of seconds.  With a click of a button, you can share anything and everything you want to, to anyone in the world.  If I want to show you a video of my daughter and her daily toddler shenanigans, I can click one button and it’s on Instagram.  Click a few more buttons and from that app, I can share to Twitter and Facebook. 10 seconds is all I need to give you a piece of my day on Snapchat.  The world has gone completely digital; likes, comments and DM’s are now what’s hot in these streets.

As much as other generations like to tell my generation and ones younger than I, completely about how us young kids don’t know how to talk to people face to face anymore, social media has its benefits.  As much as it can be bad for you, it can also be the best thing to happen to your life.  Many use it to the advantage of staying connected to family, networking, branding, and expanding their creative platform.  For example, I have family in different states who love to see my daughter but because of distance, we are unable to see each other face to face as often as we would like.  I post pictures and videos on Facebook and Instagram so they can watch her grow and catch the moments that they can’t see in real time.

Also, due to me wanting to expand my name and get more into the blogging and writing realm, I need to use my social media platforms so that people will know who I am.  Unfortunately, it’s not enough to just have a blog and pray someone comes across your site while searching; I have to make sure in order to get as much traffic as possible, I post it on as many of my social media accounts as possible, with hopes to gain some positive exposure and make new connections.  Prime example, this post in particular will be posted on my blog, and I have the ability to share it to my Facebook, Twitter and Tumblr page, which expands the number of people who get to read it and connect with me that way.

Even with me publishing my book, I would be nowhere without the ability to create and share posts about it on social media.  Social media promotion has been a key factor in getting some of the sales I have gotten thus far.

The rush that social media gives is like no other as well. I was recently listening to one of my favorite podcasts, The Friend Zone, and they were talking about the Dopamine Loop.  Basically, the Dopamine Loop is the rush we crave when checking our social media for views, likes, comments (good and bad sometimes).  We all post pictures, videos and blog posts with the intention of gaining some level of attention, and when you KNOW something you posted is poppin’, your main goal when you open your phone is to see how many people felt the same way.

For some, we have to determine if the benefit of social media outweighs the cost, or vice versa.  I can admit that I have some very addictive tendencies when it comes to these dreaded apps, but I have good reason when it comes down to it; or maybe I’m just making excuses.  Either way, I’ll be at the meetings every month to try and fight this feeling I have and hopefully Facebook, twitter and IG won’t completely take over my life!

Here’s to hoping that we all learn to curve our addiction, and use it more for the greater good!

-Whit C.

REPOST: Who’s in Your Circle? 


The older I get, the more I realize that keeping good people around me is one of the keys to a happy and successful life.  I’ve learned that if you don’t have a solid circle of friends who are not on your level and striving to get better, then you don’t really need them in your life.  Lately with all my recent accomplishments, I have really been appreciative of the people I have in my life and how much they support and encourage me to do better and be better.  I have come up with 3 major factors in this decision making process, and how I know that I don’t have any squares in my circle, lol:

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