Laughter for the Soul

So I follow an IG page that posts daily journaling prompts (@journalingsage) and today’s prompt says:

What made you laugh yesterday?

Well, yesterday, my mom, grandma and I went out shopping for a few last minute gifts for the family and friends we love so much.  I always love going out with my mom and grandma because they are full of laughs.  We always have a good time when we go out, plus we love the “last-minute” holiday hustle in the mall. The whole day was pretty adventurous, and anyone who knows me personally knows that a day out with my mom and grandma is guaranteed to generate some good, hearty laughs!

I can’t pin point one specific moment that made me laugh; but I think the best part was on the way home, trying to help my grandmother with her phone.  She has an iPhone, and is definitely not the most Apple-savvy person in the world (age has a part to play in that) lol.  Needless to say, teaching her about the cloud and storage and backing up her phone was useless, and I decided that one day next week, I will go to her house and make sure her phone is backed up, and try to see if I can free up some cloud storage space for her.  Between my grandmother’s lack of knowledge on the up and coming technology, to my mom trying to figure out how to work an Apple phone (she’s #TeamAndroid), it was quite a laughable experience and a great way to end a pretty fun trip out with them!

I must admit, that I had been having some pretty rough days at work.  I’ve been feeling like I’m being pulled in everyone’s direction but my own, and I haven’t had time to myself to laugh and have fun.  So having this day where I could just sit back and watch the exchanges between the two was just the medicine needed for a long and stressful week!


#ConfessionsOfALocdGoddess: Kids and Chemicals 

One day, my husband and I were talking about hair, and what my plans are with my daughter’s hair.  Since he was with me through my loose natural phase, and through my loc phase, he asked me how I would want our daughter’s hair to be.

He first asked me if I would loc her hair.  At this age (she is almost 2), I would say definitely not.  I told him that I wouldn’t discourage the idea, because I have locs.  I would never tell her she couldn’t do something to her hair that I have done to mine.  What I did tell him is that I would not loc her hair, until she was able to fully understand the concept and process, and to understand that this is a serious commitment and once it is done, it is quite difficult to turn back.  Once she can understand that and make a sound decision on her own, I can entertain the thought of her having locs.  Until then, a loose natural she will be. 🙂

This also brought on another question, about me perming her hair.  My answer was a resounding NO! Lol.

Ever since I let go of the creamy crack, I have seen my hair thrive in its most healthiest state. My hair grew better when I didn’t have a perm. At this age that she is now, I definitely wouldn’t want to give her a perm because she is entirely too young, but even when she gets older I am not too keen on it. Based on her texture I know she will have beautiful natural hair and if she wants it straight I will straighten it for her or have someone blow it out.  Once she’s old enough to understand and make the decision for her hair herself, I will talk to her about what she wants with her hair. I won’t force my beliefs on her nor try to coerce her into keeping her hair natural, but as long as I have the say so, she will be au naturale! Lol.  I want her to have the most healthy hair possible, and since I was natural for about 4 years, and am loc’d now, I take natural hair care very serious.  I have seen the damaging effects that perms can have on hair, and I would hate for my daughter to have to go through having damaged hair, and going through so much to try and restore it.

What is your opinion on toddlers/children having chemicals put in their hair?

Would you let your young child get a perm?

My Review on Having a Personal Trainer

I have finally finished my 6 months of personal  training!  I wanted to do a review on it, because I have a new-found positive perspective on it.

Before, when I would get serious about being in the gym and working out, I never considered getting a personal trainer.  My main thought was, “I can do whatever they are doing on my own.  I don’t need to pay someone to help me lose weight.”  So, I always went against it and just tried to make up routines on my own.  Needless to say, I wasn’t getting too far with that.

I decided to give it a try.  I purchased 6 months worth of personal training fun, and I must say, it was very beneficial and it was an AWESOME experience for me!  I was able to learn so much from my personal trainer, and she was super nice and is always willing to help even if she isn’t my trainer.

I will admit that I didn’t lose a ton of weight during my personal training time; however, the more I thought it over, that truly was not the reason I got a personal trainer.  I know what I have to do to lose weight, but I think my main reason was for someone to hold me accountable and MAKE me push myself, and also help me confirm or deny some of these well-known weight loss and weight lifting techniques and myths that are floating around the Internet.  I think hearing things from my trainer made me change the way I do certain exercises and how I view my weight loss.  Had it not been for my trainer, I would have never tried to do any of the workouts I had done with her.  Thanks to her, I have a new arsenal of workouts and differnet combinations I can do in the gym to help me out.

Also, my favorite part was that I got to keep all of my workouts in my folder! I consider my folder something like my trophy from those 6 months.  I have every workout I did in that book, and as I looked back through the workouts, I was amazed at some of the things I had accomplished through this time.  Here are a few things that I was able to conquer, that I never thought I would:

  • Box jumps (the usually scared the crap out of me)
  • Double Unders (w/ the jump rope) (figured out the secret to this ;))
  • Manmakers
  • Power and Hang cleans
  • Did my first superset workout
  • Battle rope
  • Rower machine
  • DB snatches
  • PR:
    • Deadlift-175 (want to go for 200 next time I do legs)
    • Bench Press-125 (gonna go for 135 next time I do chest)
    • Pull-ups (assisted) – 90 lbs (just recently went for 80 🙂 )

I realized that I was clearly stunting my own growth in the gym based on the types of workouts I was doing.  After this I could tell I was clearly capable of doing way more than what I was telling myself I could do when I lifted or worked out.

My trainer probably doesn’t know it, but she truly pushed me mentally more than physically, and I thank her for that.  I did workouts that I never thought I could do, and after each one, I felt amazing that I could achieve that!

So, (even though she may not see this), Thanks Brittany! You are an awesome trainer and I appreciate you taking me on as a client!!

My Heart Breaks for Savannah

This has really been something that has stuck with me in the past couple weeks. I recently found out about a domestic dispute that resulted in a murder-suicide in Savannah, Ga.  The young lady who was killed was only 19 years old and had a child. It was heartbreaking to read.

Lately, it seems that most mornings that I turn on the news, I discover that there was yet another shooting, that sometimes results in death in Savannah the night before.  It seems that as the world is seeking justice for the unjustified shootings from law enforcement, this southeast Georgia city is battling an epidemic of shooting deaths that do not involve law enforcement.

I found an article that stated that in this year there have been about 270 shootings investigated, which is about 100 more than there were last year.  There have also been 54 murders to date.

The article goes on to discuss that of the 54 homicides, only 5 were justifiable and since Nov 1 alone, there have been 10 homicides.

The incidents range from domestic disputes, disputes between acquaintances, drug-related incident, and even one between strangers, undetermined motives and an accidental shooting.

It is sad to see that this city is becoming more and more dangerous by the day.  No one knows why there is such a serge in crime, but it’s clear that no one knows if things will get better or continue to spiral down the road to destruction.  Throughout the news, I also notice that most of these shootings are against  our own; African Americans are shooting and killing our own race.

Despite all the movements and activism surrounding us, in the attempts to unite the race and fight against the injustice we face amongst non-people of color and the unjustified murders and incidents happening on almost a daily basis, we still have an ongoing and painfully obvious epidemic of black-on-black killings that are becoming just as serious and concerning as the unjustified killings and the continued racial tension.

At this point, the only question to ask is “when will it all end?”….the answer is still unknown.  As I continue to shed tears and pray for the city of Savannah, and all the other cities in America and around the world that are experiencing such tragedies, the only thing left to do is hope and pray things change.


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